Gee Capt ..

I'm sorry you feel that way .. I musta been 'lucky' then .. was married after 3 months and 'lucky' for 34 years ..

Jon

Women are from Venus, men from Mars so the say Creamy.

I don't do relationships good either. I'm a great mate and friend but I just can't get that other part right.
There's nothing wrong with me, it's everyone else. And if I believed that I'd be in a cave.
They say there's someone for everyone, so I'm just hanging around waiting for my someone.
I keep finding out why the blokes are single, and I haven't had an offer I couldn't refuse.
To find one's best friend, partner, confidante and trusted companion must be a bonus of life.
Here's a little something I wrote some time ago.

LOVE HURTS FROM A DISTANCE ©

Life is no utopia,
In fact I think Im getting dopier.
While living alone is not ideal
Its the preferred option I feel.

I need family and friends
But fear when the relationship ends.
Love is such a powerful emotion
But when its gone Im still alone.

How is love measured?
Giving and receiving from close ones treasured?
Or the level of honesty and sharing
To demonstrate the level of caring.

Love creates such vulnerability.
Open hearts leave space for the ability
To be happy and content,
Or broken and crushed with discontent.

Its safer to keep distant
Make friends and acquaintances
But dont get too close
To avoid the hurt being worse.

Love is scary, we receive and we give.
I dont know how much is left as I live.
Are we born with a measured amount
And when its gone its all out.


Is love a renewable emotion?
Or do we lose it when we give?
Does it recover and return
When someone gives us love?

My Mum, in her later years, said men and women should live seperately, and just have outings together. She didn't have the greatest of marriages, but they were still together when she passed over.

Having been through 2 marriages and 1 great love affair, I think I agree with Mum these days.

I realise this is the solo grey nomads section but I've just got to have my two bobs worth.

I've been married for more than 37 years, funnily enough so has my wife (yes to each other) and I wouldn't change a thing. We have had our ups & downs but we emerge from the downs stronger.

Some may say we are just lucky but I believe a marriage is something Precious to be worked at.

I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"

Gubby

 

Not saying a good marriage is impossible, but in my experience a lot of people [I know both sexes can be at fault]  take everything, Physically, Emotionally, and Financially, and give absolutely nothing in return.

I've tried 3 times, and won't be investing in another relationship.  I value my Peace of Mind, and Freedom too much.

Cheers,

Sheba. 

-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 19th of June 2011 09:32:10 PM

I possed the question / statement because i wondered if there is a special connection between solists and singlton. I think there often is. No one i know likes being hurt so maybe a travelling solo has found the umtimate free camp?

 " Plain women know more about men than beautiful women do."

   Plain men... well... umm..drink beer?

jonathan wrote:

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.. and yes CG, its definitely a 2-way street .. but it helps if you both are travelling in the same direction ..

Jon

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My point exactly Jon.

Cheers,

Sheba.

 

I am quite happy to be single, but I do believe in happy relationships - my parents have been happily married for 60 years and very close.

gubby wrote:

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I wasn't having a dig at anyone, just giving a another view.  As I said at the end:

'I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"'

Gubby  

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 I for one didnt think you were haveing a go at anyone  ..you were giving as you said your two bobs worth and  that a good thing    ...that why we are all different and hopefully intresting because  we dont all see thing the same ..and we all have different  views  because of our lives  and how they have played out .

-- Edited by lilly31 on Monday 20th of June 2011 11:06:15 PM

Haha!! Pam. As long as its not us sharing the rocking chairs eh? It is a gemini thing then?

Shucks !! .. won't discuss the pro's & con's of an ARCHER then .. heh !

Jon

That's Sagittarius .   That was Husband No.1.

Cheers,

Sheba.

-- Edited by Sheba on Monday 20th of June 2011 06:50:50 PM

Oscar Wilde remarked that a second marriage was a triumph of hope over experience.
Can't help but agree.