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Lone Star


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Recently invited a friend along when I met up with other friends from down south. We know each other well and went on holiday together last year without a problem. This time nothing was good enough for her. How I set up things under the annexe was wrong, the pan I used was wrong( hers was better), in fact nothing I did met with her approval. When I went for a shower I came back to find she had rearranged everything the way she thought it should be. I said nothing and spent the week bowing to her to keep the peace but I resented having to do that, we were camping after all. Prior to this we had arranged to go up north on a road trip so can't pull out and have made up my mind to go with the flow and let her do things her way but feel it's pretty disrespectful for someone to be so overbearing about every little detail. She is pretty much OCD and I'm laid back when it comes to camping. I don't want to sound petty about the whole thing but want to enjoy the trip. Anyone else had this problem?

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>This time nothing was good enough for her. How I set up things under
>the annexe was wrong, the pan I used was wrong( hers was better), in
>fact nothing I did met with her approval.

So the two of you didn't get on - that's clear.

>bowing to her to keep the peace but I resented having to

And you didn't like that situation but tolerated it.

>Prior to this we had arranged to go up north on a road trip so can't
>pull out

You can pull out and you'd be an idiot not to.

>Anyone else had this problem?

All of us at one time or another.

For whatever reason the two of you no longer get along - accept that
as a a fact.

You are so annoyed your write an emotional post to an internet forum
you have rarely posted to seeking confirmation.

Stop messing around and politely say to this person that you have
decided you no longer wish to do the road trip - she'll probably be
as relieved as you and it'll save the rest of us having to watch the
news footage about the two of you killing one-another in the middle
of the desert! :)

Sometimes people just don't get on... and that's OK - honest :)

Time to walk away... but do it nicely.



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Sheba


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Would you allow her to re-arrange your house to suit herself, if she visited you for a while ? 

Mike is right.  Cut the trip short, and don't ever invite her again.

 

Cheers,

Sheba.



-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 13th of August 2017 09:05:57 PM

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Agree, cut the ties while you can.

I met a lovely lady many moons back and we thought we might travel together but when we got together it didn't work out. I just hope she is now enjoying the playground as she is a nice person.

It was very painfull at the time and for some time after so do it now.

 

 



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Jewel


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Hi Lonestar, my personal opinion is it is not worth the angst you will carry in your heart. 

You are NOT tied to this person, make your exit gracefully while you can. 

Judging by what you have said I can't see how you will be able to enjoy the trip if you don't.

Cheers and happy travelling,

Jewel



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Seems the relationship has turned toxic. Time to move on for your own mental health.

Iza

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www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2014/10/31/2/gift-horse-should-be-put-out

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jules47


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So true that, Dorian - haven't see you on here for a while- all good?

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Sheba wrote:

Would you allow her to re-arrange your house to suit herself, if she visited you for a while ? 

Mike is right.  Cut the trip short, and don't ever invite her again.

 

Cheers,

Sheba.



-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 13th of August 2017 09:05:57 PM

 I agree. Life is for enjoying not enduring. 



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Linzeelou


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Could you be brave enough to have a talk to her about how you feel. I had a similar problem with a friend. We had a stand up barney in the middle of nowhere and we sorted out all our troubles. She had no idea that I was annoyed and just thought she was helping. Its worth a try anyway.

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Hello Lonestar, I'm sorry to hear of the unfortunate situation you are in.  I am sure when you initially made plans your heart and head were in the right place to spend a happy time with your friend.  The moment I experience someone or something is causing me more grief than joy in life and they will never enhance it, I  disconnect from it way before the dream becomes a nightmare.  Try not to be to upset about her, but view letting it all go as a blessing.  Kind regards Kisha.



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Get out now - before it gets worse. And it, undoubtedly, would. Been there, done that - and never no more !! The longer you leave it the worse it will get.
Bliss is being on your own and calling your own shots. Where you go, when, what you eat, everything.
Cheers,
... Val  smilesmilesmile



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Took a Sailing mate on a sail yrs ago.
Been sailing together for 30 odd yrs. Sweet as.
ON each his own boat.

Went on my boat.
Whole trip lasted 2 days. One out. one back.

Still best mates but sailed independently again from then on.

Solo Sailors ARE Solo Sailors.

AND That goes for everything in life.
Shut the door quick girl.

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Travel on your own lonestar meeting up as you go along.
I tried it once as well. What a disaster.


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I am married to her twin lonestar.

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They were triplets , 'cos i got the other onebiggrinbiggrin



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macka17


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And I married a 5 ft nothing. Up (and around, Nowadays)
Dominating; aggressive, Bossy, Mood switching in middle of sentence,
etc. etc.
Controlling.

Lovely little thing she is. Just what I need at times.

Wouldn't swap her for quids.

 

17 yrs and I can still stir her up with a coupla words.

AND. She keeps coming back for more??.

Most others would have shot me by now.



-- Edited by macka17 on Tuesday 29th of August 2017 12:34:02 PM

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women on top huh? how unusual!

 



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dorian wrote:

www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2014/10/31/2/gift-horse-should-be-put-out

 This reminds me of advice my Dad gave me when I was still a teenager.
"Son, the house has not been built that is big enough for two women"

Have to admit, he was right.

Jim



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