I don't like being called lov, honey, darl, etc. by shop keepers

Lesley F · Senior Member

I don't like being called lov, honey, darl, etc. by shop keepers

D and D · Guru

I'm a guy and get addressed as such quite often and, depending on the age of the person I'm involved with also get called mate, dude, bloke and some less complimentary terms depending on the nature of the interaction. Doesn't bother me in the least, but that's me and we're not all the same.

Dave

aussie_paul · Guru

Lesley F wrote:
I have a bee in my bonnet, when cashiers and shop staff call me Love, Honey, Darl, Sweety, or similar it annoys me.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't call another woman, especially a stranger, using those words.
I often ask if the woman employee is trying to chat me up?, they tend to take a step back.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure men don't suffer the same, by being called Dude, mate, guy, chap, bloke, sexy, hunk, etc.
I'm OK with G'day, How ya going, good morning/afternoon, Hi there, Hello, etc., but not terms of endearment.

I don't either Lesley!! biggrin

Aussie Paul. smile

Happywanderer · The Master

Totally agree with you Lesley F. Another one is a young male teenager behind the counter calling me mate.
But being called love and darl by young female cashiers makes me annoyed enough to say something to them.

Woody n Sue · Guru

Not a fan of it either but just let it go through to the keeper figure it's better that a bad attitude from them

Santa · Guru

I'm not a fan of this type of familiarity from people in retail/service industries.

Like the previous poster, prefer to ignore it than get a reputation of being a grumpy old fart, you never know when you will need the help of one of these people with an unusual request, and as we all know you will attract more bee's with honey than vinegar. wink

Phil C · Guru

When I started in retail a a 15 year old, we were told everyone is sir or madame. I also have issues with young bloke calling me mate, when I was in StJohn I held warrant rank (Divisional Superintendent) and was called sir by all of lower rank, I was also saluted.

PC or not, I find love, dear etc, as Leslie has suggested offensive and disrespectful. As far as I am concerned young people should be more respectful to older folks, Rant over

Cheers

Dougwe · Chief one feather

So what you are saying Darl, is you are not impressed smile

Now come on you must have expected some idiot to say that. I fit the bill so why not biggrin

Soooory!

Edit......Phil C made do it smile

-- Edited by Dougwe on Sunday 19th of April 2015 07:29:35 PM

KFT · Guru

I have often responded the same way when someone does that.

makes them think about what they have said to me sometimes.

Thank you sweetheart appreciate you looking after me so nicely today.

the rocket · Guru

hi, do not like strangers saying that to me but someone I know is ok. I have even been know to say to a friend "gday love, how ya goin".

Olley46 · Guru

I would rather be called darl or love than be called late for dinner,the majority of lady,s that call you those names are middle age women.

Lance C

hako · Guru

It doesn't worry me in the least and it's much better than being not acknowledged as though you don't exist.
Regards

Santa · Guru

Phil C wrote:
When I started in retail a a 15 year old, we were told everyone is sir or madame. I also have issues with young bloke calling me mate, when I was in StJohn I held warrant rank (Divisional Superintendent) and was called sir by all of lower rank, I was also saluted.

PC or not, I find love, dear etc, as Leslie has suggested offensive and disrespectful. As far as I am concerned young people should be more respectful to older folks, Rant over

Cheers

The fact is Phil that we are pretty well past our use by date, a few more years and the problem wont exist. biggrin

2foot6 · Veteran Member

Oh MATE ...... If you want to be called mate,ring YOUI insurance,they use the word at the end of every sentence and in any reference to you rather than call you by your name,I ended up hanging up on them......................cheers mate..oooops sorry Peter

-- Edited by 2foot6 on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:22:11 PM

Radar · Guru

You can call me anything you like but don't call me late for dinner.

Sorry it do piss me off also but not enough too carry on about it, take it as a compliment and move on.

pauline · Guru

Ok I have just turned 60 and I have to admit I call a lot of people I talk to luv or darl..........will try to keep my mouth shut in future, people get a life !

-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:43:52 PM

Chicken strangler · Senior Member

It's the intent the way it is said that makes all the difference.

Santa · Guru

I don't get too bent out of shape when addressed in this manner.

People who use this terminology are giving a pretty clear indication of their background and education.

It takes all types. wink

Lesley F · Senior Member

I think most professional's/business people wouldn't want their staff saying this to customers, but somehow it's OK to target mostly mature age women.

I wouldn't dream of calling another woman, or man in this forum Darl, Honey, Love, sweety, it feels "too familiar".

pauline · Guru

Santa wrote:
I don't get too bent out of shape when addressed in this manner.
People who use this terminology are giving a pretty clear indication of their background and education.
It takes all types.

I must be one of those types then...........whatever that means Santa, and there is nothing wrong with my background or education, always just thought of it as being friendly, like I said before people need to get a life, I apologise to everyone that I may have upset in the past and will also probably in the future, no offense intended just me being me.

ballast2 · Guru

G'day all. I call most people mate as it helps with the so called gender barrier. I have no problem with the casual attitude of the newer generation. Remember most of our parents hated the way we spoke to and about others. It is time to move on.
Cheers

pauline · Guru

Totally agree luv.............

Aus-Kiwi · Guru

Call me anything you want!!
As long as it's not late for dinner ...

NeilandRaine · Guru

pauline wrote:
Ok I have just turned 60 and I have to admit I call a lot of people I talk to luv or darl..........will try to keep my mouth shut in future, people get a life !

-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:43:52 PM

Kaid · Guru

Luv, l say Pet, l say darl, l say sweetie.
I totally agree. It definitely is not what l like to be called from a young sales person.
Friends and family is fine though

Goldfinger · Senior Member

.....and sometimes some 'Honeys' should be obscene and not heard.......IMO....lol......Hoo Roo

deverall11 · Guru

Don't like being called mate by a female. I'm not your mate cause mates do things......
Larry

Izabarack · Guru

Mainly get "Sweetie". I also seem to get the best service from those calling me that. May be something about how I treat them, first. Have had a couple of "Honey". Never get "Darl" and don't ever recall any young sheila calling me "Mate". Only one I object to is the "Buddy" from some pimply faced face American wannabe at the auto parts shop.

Iza

animalcarer · Senior Member

Hi. I get. That. I think I. Will. Use the chat up. Quote.

usedtobe · Veteran Member

Our daughters call us 'guys' don't like it but I remember calling my dad "my old man" but not to his face... I think that the people who use darl, love etc, are usually older women and from my experience they are the more caring types so enjoy being called these terms of address, there are much worse things to get upset by, a pity that our society is changing so much. I enjoy the old fashioned darl, love etc...it was around when I was a boy and that's over 50 years ago so glad some things are still the same...maybe repressed gender issues are the cause of feeling offended. Get over it guys ! Or should I say love ?

Henri....