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milo · Guru

Counselor

Happywanderer · The Master

You should be able to see one free at the local hospital Milo. Referred by your doctor will get you in.

neilnruth · Guru

Actually milo it's not that long since your Dad went - it's only 2 months - so hang in there. My Dad went just before yours. Mum feels down some days too. Then she'll have a good one. It will get easier. Maybe just a chat with your GP will be enough.

milo · Guru

yeah its funny how we are both the same time NnR,
I'm going to see my gp on saturday morning, all booked out till then.
3 months tomorrow for us...

I haven't been real well over the weekend..
so will have a few things to talk about.
lucky you still got your mum .... hug her every day, ..

Dunmowin · Guru

Milo, four months for me since mum went. Still think about her every day, but I have plenty to do to keep me busy in the meantime. Get out there and enjoy what you can now have. Thinking of you mate.....

sufil · Guru

Milo it is 5 months since I lost my dad and I still think..must ring and tell him this or that, have even almost dialled all his number and then remembered he isn't there to answer
the call!!
Try and keep busy, practice your music, buy a tent and get out on the road for a couple of days at a time. Sitting around a campfire with your guitar in hand, stars above will do wonders for you. OK so it is the wrong weather for a campfire, just sit on a chair outside your tent or near the camp kitchen if in a park and you will be surprised at how many people will wander over to encourage you, join in, sing, whatever they are good at. Before long you will be feeling so much better. Yes you are going to miss your dad forever but the pain will go and you will have lots of happy memories about him.
Hopefully your GP can arrange for you to see a counsellor for free. Over here we can get 6 visits a year to various people for free if recommended by GP. (counsellor, phsych,physio,dental etc)

Vic41 · Guru

A few good links here Milo, I was a volunteer counsellor for Samaritans years ago and they are very good;

http://www.thesamaritans.org.au/contact-us.aspx

Also Lifeline are worth talking to;

http://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Facts---Information/Lifeline-Services/Lifeline-Services

Please not you do not have to be suicidal to talk to either of these free services.

I don't know much about the one below, it is an online service in the US I think;

http://www.opentohope.com/

-- Edited by Vic41 on Sunday 16th of March 2014 07:11:48 AM

Tomzys · Senior Member

sufil wrote:
Milo it is 5 months since I lost my dad and I still think..must ring and tell him this or that, have even almost dialled all his number and then remembered he isn't there to answer
the call!!
Try and keep busy, practice your music, buy a tent and get out on the road for a couple of days at a time. Sitting around a campfire with your guitar in hand, stars above will do wonders for you. OK so it is the wrong weather for a campfire, just sit on a chair outside your tent or near the camp kitchen if in a park and you will be surprised at how many people will wander over to encourage you, join in, sing, whatever they are good at. Before long you will be feeling so much better. Yes you are going to miss your dad forever but the pain will go and you will have lots of happy memories about him.
Hopefully your GP can arrange for you to see a counsellor for free. Over here we can get 6 visits a year to various people for free if recommended by GP. (counsellor, phsych,physio,dental etc)

Hi Milo, very good advice here, time does heal, my thoughts are with you, try and keep busy as hard as it is and good to see you are going to see the Dr, you have taken the first step by posting here, that's a start.

pambaz · Senior Member

Milo my sincere sympathies to you. I lost my darling Mum 16 yrs ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her and miss her. No matter how old you are you need your parents.

After mum passed away I was grief stricken and the only thing that took the thoughts away was doing something that I love. I threw myself into helping my husband build our weekender. We spent weekend after weekend doing it up and the week days were full of organising building materials for the next weekend. By keeping very busy and my mind active helped greatly.

It doesn't matter what you do the important thing is to keep busy doing what you enjoy and having family and friends around. It's amazing how talking to people and getting involved in something helps.

By all means have a talk to a counsellor they can be wonderful.

You never stop missing them but believe me it does get better.

Pam

peterblack · Senior Member

hi.i/we sincerely sympathies to you. I lost my mum 8 yrs ago and my dad 2years ago.
it is very hard thing to get over I must say.
but they had a pretty good life overall I think.
it does get a bit easier as time goes by
but try and think positive and try to meditate and think good thoughts about his life
Pete

Kantiki · Senior Member

Hi Milo, hope your starting to feel better. Your GP can give you a referral for 6 free visits to a counsellor with an option for 6 more if needed. Speaking from both personal and professional experience, it can definitely help. For on line assistance, try Beyond Blue. They have great resources.