Gossip

Grams · Guru

Gossip

Duh · Guru

I agree with the others Marj, copy and past the comments on a pm to Cindy and let her deal with it.

Nobody should have to put up with abusive pm's, if they have a complaint they can make it by pm to Cindy like the forum rules say.

I will say I am glad that we are not as bad as another forum where open abuse seems to be tolerated, as our GN numbers grow I hope we never become like them.

Keep posting Marj, and hopefully others that have been put off by some may return also...

-- Edited by Duh on Sunday 4th of August 2013 11:34:10 AM

Happywanderer · The Master

I woke up this morning to a pm in my pm box telling me to shut my mouth and stop spreading gossip to MY nutters.

Now, you would all love to know who sent it but I'm not one to gossip. So I will keep the bully a secret.

It seems you can say what you like on this forum in writing, but talk one to one in person and it turns into gossip. I'm assuming someone else knows what I've gossiped as I don't

This is the second time I've heard this from the same group. Time to take a break me thinks, I'm off to join wombat down his burrow.

Bye!!

jules47 · The Happy Helper

Don't leave us Marj - we love you

biggles · Senior Member

Marj ..

I've learned that you can't take everyone on face value .. what I do is to keep copies of all threatening PM's and also pass details onto Cindy ..

Lots of great folk out there who are sincere and more joining all the time .. hang about !

Jon

Rip and Rosie · Guru

Know what you mean, Marj.

I gave myself a break a few weeks back (not that anyone noticed).

But, it's really just a forum, and if it gives you pleasure, don't let anyone rob you of it!

I came back, but will now stand up for myself when I need to.

Love

Rosie

gordon_adl · Senior Member

I must say, for this forum to be mostly respected mature aged adults, there is an incredible amount of bullying and harassment. The flaming PM's one gets for posting opposing views is incredible. Apparently bullying and trolls is not something that is just for school kids.

Happywanderer wrote:
So I will keep the bully a secret.

Gerty Dancer · Guru

Don't let "em grind you down Marj... hang in here!!! Please?

billeeeeeee · Guru

Marjie, Marjie , how I love you, how I love you , my dear young Marjie,,, I'd walk a million miles for one of your smiles, my Marjie

Rip and Rosie · Guru

gordon_adl wrote:

I must say, for this forum to be mostly respected mature aged adults, there is an incredible amount of bullying and harassment. The flaming PM's one gets for posting opposing views is incredible. Apparently bullying and trolls is not something that is just for school kids.
Happywanderer wrote:
So I will keep the bully a secret.

Isn't that why bullies are successful, because we keep it secret?

Keeping it secret is exactly what we tell our children NOT to do........... bullying, sexual abuse, domestic violence.

Grams · Guru

Gordon, good for you. No one should have to put up with being bullied or harassed, I don't care if the person is well known or not. I like some posters on here, others I don't agree with and others annoy me..just like in real life, but I won't shut up for a bully, not anymore, life is too short to tip toe through life.

-- Edited by Grams on Sunday 4th of August 2013 04:24:00 PM

Rip and Rosie · Guru

Grams wrote:
Gordon, good for you. No one should have to put up with being bullied or harassed, I don't care if the person is well known or not. I like some posters on here, others I don't agree with and others annoy me..just like in real life, but I won't shut up for a bully, not anymore, life is too short to tip toe through life.

-- Edited by Grams on Sunday 4th of August 2013 04:24:00 PM

Me too.

I like lots of people, some occasionally annoy me, and some I avoid...... its like life.

Except, that sometimes we all need to remember that the written word and the spoken word can be interpreted differently.

For those of us who type as we would speak to a person in front of us, remember, they can't see your wry smile, or cheeky wink, or the body language, and what you type may come across as harsh.

This misinterpretation of intention is not bullying, nor is not agreeing with another person. Bullying isn't a "one of" incident, maybe because someone is in a bad mood...... that's rudeness and disrespect.

Bullying is when a person intentionally and repeatedly inflicts discomfort upon another person, perhaps abuse through words or in other ways.

-- Edited by Rip and Rosie on Sunday 4th of August 2013 05:07:41 PM

Keith19837 · Senior Member

When there is a group of people from any dynamic; whether that dynamic be political, socio economic or common interest based, then there will always be a certain degree of friction. I've probably upset everyone on the forum and have certainly put ideas, opinions and legal arguments out there that will challenge others. Personally, I love a good 'argument' or being challenged as this creates ideas, reviews and revision. However, sometimes some people can't seem to 'agree to disagree'. Don't let any of this overly affect your life. In the words of someone famous "Nil Desperandum Illigitimos Carborundum"

freehazzas · Senior Member

Name and shame them is the only way to stop bullies.
I thought i was on a grey nomad forum, not a bloody school yard one.
Bet they dont have the gutts to send me one. I have my own way of dealing with bullies and its not nice on them.

Gerty Dancer · Guru

Cindy's repeatedly asked that we send such things to her, so do it Marj, don't keep bullies secret, it gives them power.

woosy · Senior Member

Pease what is going on in this forum!!!!!I was on about a week ago and it seems like the same again what happened to our big play ground when every one was happy is this what they call bullying I think it could be winter blues please can we go back to the happy zone confuse

herbie · Guru

Hi Marj, hang in there, just ignore these type of people.

They are probably not worth even giving a second glance to.

So deep breath, head up, and just do what you have always done....Just being yourself.

Regards Herbie. disbelief

-- Edited by herbie on Sunday 4th of August 2013 08:41:41 PM

dazren · Guru

Hey Marj, >> Think about it , like i did a week or so ago, confuse confuse confuse confuse confuse Think about it in Percentage terms ??

As i stated ! 98% of people on here are great smile smile smile === 2% seem to be sadly lacking a life, hmm hmm

Are you going to ignore the large circle of friends you have on here just because of a couple of cowardly, lonely, backstabbers, ???

You do know who they are ? SO YOU KNOW WHO TO IGNORE , // they would NOT be welcome at your campfire anyway ??

Let me put it another way ??? IF a friend of your Son Or friend of your Daughter came up to you , And this Friend of their's said. Marge i don't think you should have said this to So and So ??

And because you said it ??? YOU ARE NOT TO SPEAK TO YOUR SON or DAUGHTER or Their children ANYMORE !!!!!

I kNOW WHAT YOUR ANSWER TO THAT FRIEND OF THEIRS WOULD BE MARGE ?? furious furious furious furious furious furious AND THAT IS THE ANSWER YOU GIVE TO YOUR secret PM 'r

So tell Him/Her ?/ to P-SS oFF < AND STICK AROUND HERE WITH YOUR ''EXTENDED FAMILY smile smile smile smile

pauline · Guru

for goodness sake if someone is bullying and playing nasty I think they should be named.............that is not what this forum is about, so I would hope if there is a problem Marj should let us all know.

-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 4th of August 2013 08:20:51 PM

nomadic1 · Senior Member

Hey Marj - please don't let a couple of bloody idiots get to you. They really aren't worth it. We all love you and want you to stay with us. Please either just ignore them or send it all to Cindy.

Dougwe · Chief one feather

DON'T GO MARJ!!!! STAY.

You get too much out of this great forum to let a very minority get you down. Just ignore the ones you don't like and that are causing trouble like I do.

While I was up in Townsville I had a PM from someone I don't like what they say on the forum asking to meet me but I chose to just ignore that PM. There, now they know. As Dazren said it's only about 2% that are not nice and that's a very small number out of 100.

So don't let them get to ya mate.

It will take more than words to stop me getting on here. I have been told by someone I post "absolute crap" but chose to get mileage out of it for a while and posted more AC. Then I get heaps of people saying they love or at least enjoy what I say and go about the way I do things on the forum, so there ya go, you can't please all and I don't set out to try.

Just stay the way you are and have fun Marj.

Of course this is all probably AC.

Poppy sore eye · Senior Member

Hey guys i almost feel like this all has not thing to do with me as I am still fairly new, but I just have to comment.

yes there are people here I don't agree with.

yes there are people here that I would value the opinion of.

yes I am sure that there are people that don't like or agree with the things I have to say.

but come on, we boot of the clicky group of bi*chy young mothers I see when I drop the grannies at school, we are independent mature adults who have all earned the right to our opinions. Many of us us could probably be classed as opinionated old bast*rds. I know that some people think that of me.

All I can say is great, you have earned the right to your opinion, I don't agree, I think your a co*kh*ad so pi**off. (Please pardon the French)

choose your friends, chose those you listen to, the rest can kiss my proverbial. Although I do respect there right to hold the wrong opinion. ,!!!!!

PLEASE, don't let them win, don't let them silence you, myself and others appreciate your comments and input.

Pejay · Guru

Marj,

I totally agree with everyone above - if you 'take off', then the bullies win. Stand tall and proud of who you are.

DON'T LET THE BULLIES WIN!!

JRH · Guru

Pejay wrote:
Marj,

I totally agree with everyone above - if you 'take off', then the bullies win. Stand tall and proud of who you are.

DON'T LET THE BULLIES WIN!!

Just ignore them Marj. They hate to be ignored so they usually go away.

Jack Mac · Senior Member

Gerty Dancer wrote:
Don't let "em grind you down Marj... hang in here!!! Please?

Nil Illegitimus carborundum. With apologies for incorrect spelling?

Cheers,

Jack

Colls · Senior Member

Marj, I have just returned from visiting my Mother in a dementia nursing home. One of the greatest bullies there is a nurse. The rest of the nursing staff are great. I wont upset my mother by moving her however the nurse has been reported. Please don't let the minority ruin the dream for you. We have been GN's for a similar amount of time although I don't post a lot. You have always supported others. You are just about to start doing what you have wanted for some time Tell the BULLIES to GO GET>>>>FURTHER down the road. I wonder if they were bullies at school, will they be bullies in nursing homes? Just keep smiling when you can.

Colls · Senior Member

Marj, I have just returned from visiting my Mother in a dementia nursing home. One of the greatest bullies there is a nurse. The rest of the nursing staff are great. I wont upset my mother by moving her however the nurse has been reported. Please don't let the minority ruin the dream for you. We have been GN's for a similar amount of time although I don't post a lot. You have always supported others. You are just about to start doing what you have wanted for some time Tell the BULLIES to GO GET>>>>FURTHER down the road. I wonder if they were bullies at school, will they be bullies in nursing homes? Just keep smiling when you can.

EllenajoeL · Senior Member

@Marg (Happywanderer),

for what it may add to the posts here:

the 'peer-reviewed'/generally agreed approach to such unfortunate correspondence is (in summary):

Stop responding to the bully's messages.
Save the evidence.
Block the bully (i.e. change your account settings).
Don't wait too long to ask for help (i.e. report the bully to the service provider, being Cindy in this case, asap).

You have done a great deal for this forum. I hope you get past this and remain a significant contributor...

and I hope this topic/thread makes ALL of us consider our future behaviour here too.

barina · Guru

That is terrible behaviour from supposed adults. It is what school kids get up to. Take it easy Marj, it is awful for it to happen but I am sure your many friends far outweigh the NUTTERS!!! who must have a sad and bitter life is all I can say. You were one of the first GN's I met and made me realise I can get out there.....Don't worry be Happy cause they're not biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin

billeeeeeee · Guru

Nutters, Nutters wot Nutters.........