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Beth54


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...for my ex husbands 60th birthday! The nice ex, not the Psycopath ex. The father of my children.

We've been divorced for 21 years, but we're friends, his partner and I are friends, and they're both a part of my family. Many of the party guests were my family. I know it's very weird. It still amazes me.

We've known each other since I was 14, although we didn't become an item until I was 16. We had the proverbial shot-gun wedding 2 & a half years later. Even in those early days, I wasn't sure that I wanted to marry him. I tried to break up a few times, before I got pregnant, but he'd get very upset and I'd give in. He always loved me more than I loved him, and my daughter reckons he still loves me.

After 17 years of marriage, I left him. There were many problems, I was depressed...I won't go into all that. I still liked him, and wanted to stay friends, but it was very hard for him to let go. Eventually he did, and found a lovely lady who's been with him a long time. Luckily, she's very understanding of our weird relationship.

So after all these years, we're okay, it's great for our kids, my nieces and nephews still call him Uncle, and he/they still get invited to my family functions.

I hope you don't mind this little digression, I was just feeling a little nostalgic and wanted to share.

 



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Geez what a spunk you were when you were young Beth, no doubt still are but no longer young but older like most of us......

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Vic wrote:

Geez what a spunk you were when you were young Beth, no doubt still are but no longer young but older like most of us......

  Not much spunk left in this old body! biggrin



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Beth54 wrote:
Vic wrote:

Geez what a spunk you were when you were young Beth, no doubt still are but no longer young but older like most of us......

  Not much spunk left in this old body! biggrin

 Tell me about it, but we still have our memories of better times....aww



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Hi Ace Pop Top Campervan & A'Van A'Lite Camper Trailer.....

Khalil Gibran says "We tarry forward - not backward".

Spread the laughter
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No spunk in this body anymore Beth and Vic but I'm not out to impress anymore so no problem. It's always good to look back at old photo's Beth, I often look at mine. I have a favourite one of me a mate took when I was 20, it was a double exposure. I might post it one day.



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Not so weird Beth I have a neighbour who divorced her husband she remarried but her first husband is still her best friend he lives next door to them invited to all family functions and the kids are the most well adjusted that I have ever met a really good relationship so great for the kids good on you Beth. Helena.

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Good to hear you are all still friends Beth, there are so many breakups that do not end up this way, good on you all.



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The human heart is a very complex beast.

My sister got divorced when her 2nd child was 12 months old, and 8 years later she remarried him. They just celebrated their 40th anniversary.


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Life.............go figure.

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I think it was the old photos that set me off on this trip of nostalgia.

My son's had set up a slide show on a white sheet on the wall, so all night these photos were running. Everyone enjoyed it, especially his two brothers and our old frineds from those early days.

Thanks folks, for the indulgence.



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It's called life. I'm still friends with husband #1 and I spent Christmas with his new wife and her family a couple of years ago. Everyone had a good time except his new wife.
I still communicate civilly with partner #2 but I still hold some fear of him. I loved the sober bloke, but not the drunk violent one.
It's called life and growing up.
You're lucky you have a good relationship like that Beth. We have to look after ourselves but we can't keep analyssing life, much as we'd like to, so we could understand it. The older I get, the more confusing life becomes.

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Very true Chris, I am very lucky.

Maybe we'll get it right in another lifetime. smile

In the meantime, I'm not sad or upset about the way our 'relationship' went. It's just a fact of life.

And we did make 3 great kids together! 



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I've just turned (42) and never been married, or what ever maybe some day but
i think humans are just weird any ways ...

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milo wrote:

I've just turned (42) and never been married, or what ever maybe some day but
i think humans are just weird any ways ...

 I'll second that milo, i'm a wombat biggrin



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i must have been something else other than human in my past life, i just cant get used to human people sometimes
even related ones ... oh well. at least your all on good turns beth, thats the main thing ,lifes too short...
as i always say at the end of my show..

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_wombat_ wrote:
milo wrote:

I've just turned (42) and never been married, or what ever maybe some day but
i think humans are just weird any ways ...

 I'll second that milo, i'm a wombat biggrin

 And wombats arn't weird? they who live in a hole in the ground and are smelly biggrinbiggrinbiggrinbiggrinbiggrinbiggrinbiggrin Well the flat ones on the road are anyway.



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Its funny how people who were such an important and central part of our lives suddenly become people we never want to see again. Some make an artform of exploiting vulnerabilities, some we are able to maintain respect and genuine regard for, some remain really great friends. Go figure, part of the great tapestry of life I suppose. Chris I really feel for your need for a more functional family and I so hope it happens for you one day. In the meantime you are one heck of a strong character with so many achievements under your belt and so much to be proud of.

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You are a very lucky woman.

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