How many are travelling after a death because they can no longer function in a society..
That's me and I have to go soon...
Dougwe said
06:20 PM Nov 14, 2019
Hi Annette.
After losing my long time wife 8 years ago now I decided after only 12 months to hit the road. I started out part time for two years and have now been full time on the road for five years September just gone. No regrets and it has kept me sane. Some say I am insane though but hey, what would they know. They can only guess, I know. I have met some great people, many from this forum and have formed many friendships, some life long.
I am a Solo traveller but sometimes 'Uncle Al' gets up before me but I try hard to get up before him these days. I won't let the bugger beat me.
Keep Safe on the roads and out there.
biggles2 said
11:11 PM Nov 14, 2019
Hello Annette ..
It is a difficult time.
While a few might speak on the subject, there would be many more that would find it too painful to discuss .. Like Doug before me, I also lost my wife but back in 2004.
After a few years I hit the road as a Grey Nomad. It took time, but I did manage to get past those earlier days to quite enjoy the many and varied people that I met while travelling. The big thing to keep close to your heart is that regardless of what you choose to do/not do, is that time will need to pass for you to get a grasp on reality. This will happen. It varies for each person as we would expect and it will happen for you.
There is a beautiful song sung by Willie Nelson .. "Something you get through" and I'll try to attach it here for you to listen to .. the lyrics are very comforting.
After many years of travelling this beautiful country, I did finally have to find a place to step back to enjoy life without the pleasure of travelling. I have no regrets and happy with where I am now ..
Happy to speak with you ..
Jon
(Unfortunately, I only have a karaoke version which didn't want to play on here) .. will find it for you)
-- Edited by biggles2 on Thursday 14th of November 2019 11:18:43 PM
Gingerbiscuit said
07:57 PM Nov 15, 2019
I will let you know when I am travelling..
Gingerbiscuit said
07:59 PM Nov 15, 2019
It's a hard/sad journey..
I am presently in the NE area NSW.
Mike Harding said
02:40 PM Nov 16, 2019
Hi Gingerbiscuit
Your sadness touches me.
Grief is the price we pay for love and as the English poet Tennyson wrote in 1849: " 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"
I know his words are right, we should be glad we had the joy of loving relationships rather than feel regret at their passing. All things must end... as we well know.
Nevertheless; grief is a very heavy burden to carry and I know of nothing which will lighten its load except time. The degree of pain we feel is a direct reflection of the depth of our love. In some ways it's good to feel that pain because it confirms our love was true and full... but it still hurts badly, I know.
Do not expect too much from yourself Annette, be kind to yourself and allow your grief to pour forth, tears are cathartic and cleansing and, I guarantee you, time will dull your pain but we are talking years not weeks or months.
Go well Annette and perhaps regular posts detailing your travels will help you to find a new focus?
Gingerbiscuit said
01:43 PM Nov 19, 2019
Thank you
Joda said
02:29 PM Nov 19, 2019
Try not to dwell on the negatives, time heals all wounds it is said, remember the happy & funny times You spent together,
Good people on this forum too,
Joda.
Dick0 said
06:25 PM Nov 23, 2019
Hi,
Many friendly campers at Greens Lake, Vic over Summer if you head that way...great place to spend Feb/Mar weather wise and making new friends.
hokianga said
11:44 AM Jan 25, 2020
I know where you are coming from I travelled for a while when I returned to Oz after the death of my husband in NZ, but a word of warning- not everyone on the road is a nice person and be careful you are not targeted because you are vulnerable.
Travelling and being able to go where I wanted with no forward planning was great, I am sure you will enjoy the experience, and the tranquility going solo can bring you.
Paull said
05:21 AM Feb 2, 2020
hokianga wrote:
I know where you are coming from I travelled for a while when I returned to Oz after the death of my husband in NZ, but a word of warning- not everyone on the road is a nice person and be careful you are not targeted because you are vulnerable. Travelling and being able to go where I wanted with no forward planning was great, I am sure you will enjoy the experience, and the tranquility going solo can bring you.
I'm not sure what you mean by this? Could you elaborate please, Thanks
How many are travelling after a death because they can no longer function in a society..
That's me and I have to go soon...
After losing my long time wife 8 years ago now I decided after only 12 months to hit the road. I started out part time for two years and have now been full time on the road for five years September just gone. No regrets and it has kept me sane. Some say I am insane though but hey, what would they know. They can only guess, I know. I have met some great people, many from this forum and have formed many friendships, some life long.
I am a Solo traveller but sometimes 'Uncle Al' gets up before me but I try hard to get up before him these days. I won't let the bugger beat me.
Keep Safe on the roads and out there.
Hello Annette ..
It is a difficult time.
While a few might speak on the subject, there would be many more that would find it too painful to discuss .. Like Doug before me, I also lost my wife but back in 2004.
After a few years I hit the road as a Grey Nomad. It took time, but I did manage to get past those earlier days to quite enjoy the many and varied people that I met while travelling. The big thing to keep close to your heart is that regardless of what you choose to do/not do, is that time will need to pass for you to get a grasp on reality. This will happen. It varies for each person as we would expect and it will happen for you.
There is a beautiful song sung by Willie Nelson .. "Something you get through" and I'll try to attach it here for you to listen to .. the lyrics are very comforting.
After many years of travelling this beautiful country, I did finally have to find a place to step back to enjoy life without the pleasure of travelling. I have no regrets and happy with where I am now ..
Happy to speak with you ..
Jon
(Unfortunately, I only have a karaoke version which didn't want to play on here) .. will find it for you)
-- Edited by biggles2 on Thursday 14th of November 2019 11:18:43 PM
I will let you know when I am travelling..
It's a hard/sad journey..
I am presently in the NE area NSW.
Hi Gingerbiscuit
Your sadness touches me.
Grief is the price we pay for love and as the English poet Tennyson
wrote in 1849:
" 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"
I know his words are right, we should be glad we had the joy of
loving relationships rather than feel regret at their passing. All
things must end... as we well know.
Nevertheless; grief is a very heavy burden to carry and I know of
nothing which will lighten its load except time. The degree of pain
we feel is a direct reflection of the depth of our love. In some ways
it's good to feel that pain because it confirms our love was true and
full... but it still hurts badly, I know.
Do not expect too much from yourself Annette, be kind to yourself and
allow your grief to pour forth, tears are cathartic and cleansing and,
I guarantee you, time will dull your pain but we are talking years
not weeks or months.
Go well Annette and perhaps regular posts detailing your travels will
help you to find a new focus?
Hi,
Many friendly campers at Greens Lake, Vic over Summer if you head that way...great place to spend Feb/Mar weather wise and making new friends.
Travelling and being able to go where I wanted with no forward planning was great, I am sure you will enjoy the experience, and the tranquility going solo can bring you.
I'm not sure what you mean by this? Could you elaborate please, Thanks