5 years today since my mum passed away from dementia / Alzheimer's
Ill never ever forget her... took some flowers to her site today , so darn hot, 35 degrees.. I rang dad, he went down too.. went and saw him on the weekend, talked abit but that was about it.. anyways.. love you mum
my mum when young and as a nurse
my mum at her 80th birthday
one of the last few pics of mum and dad together before dementia set in..
she made our world a wonderfull and happy place..
-- Edited by milo on Monday 14th of November 2011 07:12:04 PM
pauline said
09:23 PM Nov 14, 2011
That's what Mums are for Milo...............
animalcarer said
09:53 PM Nov 14, 2011
What a pretty girl she was when she was young, and lovely when older, beautiful hair. She looks very caring. You were lucky to have a great mum, unfortunately I did not, but my nana made up for it. It doesnt matter how old you get, we still think about the people who nutured us.
Elle on Wheels said
01:29 AM Nov 15, 2011
Wow what beautiful photos Milo. I bet your mum was a great nurse - she looks really relaxed and happy in that photo. It looks like your parents had a happy time together. It's sad about the dementia. I had a wonderful aunt who was a real ground breaker and very independent woman and unfortunately she got dementia in her late 60's and died at 70. She was a very healthy woman who had no vices. It is so sad to see loved ones go through dementia and hopefully they will find a cure soon. I hope you are ok in remembering her and acknowledging the many things she gave you and taught you. Good parents are a precious gift.
Travel Bug said
06:36 PM Nov 16, 2011
Milo, what a lovely tribute to your Mum.
I am sure that she is looking down and feeling very proud of you.
Boroma577 said
10:08 PM Nov 19, 2011
Travel Bug wrote:
Milo, what a lovely tribute to your Mum.
I am sure that she is looking down and feeling very proud of you.
I agree with TB and I am sure you were a wonderful son Milo and made her very proud.
scotia59 said
01:11 PM Nov 24, 2011
My mum passed away four years ago last week, suffered from dementia too. Your photos are lovely and as Travel Bug wrote a lovely tribute. It is a horrible illness that I would not wish on anyone or their family.
I still miss my mum and think of her every day. Sadly I could not visit her as she is in Scotland next to my dad and brother but I know she is looking down on us all.
Jean
animalcarer said
08:26 PM Nov 24, 2011
Welcome Scotia. Nice to have you on board.
I hope you get enjoyment from our forum.
Cruising Granny said
08:36 PM Nov 25, 2011
My mum died in 1955 at the age of 25. I was 4. I don't remember anything about her, but I wish I did. My grandmother raised me for the next 8 years and she died when I was 14. I only remember her strict discipline, and I guess I inherited her love of gardening.
pauline said
10:19 PM Nov 25, 2011
CG that is so sad that both your Mum and Grandmother both died so young, but you have obviously inherited the survival genes, me I kill everything in the garden............if it starts out green, that is not how it ends up, unfortunately.
Cruising Granny said
08:08 PM Nov 27, 2011
While the adults of my life worked hard on my discipline and manners, they seemed to forget to learn who I was and what my qualities and talents were. I grew up believing I was just a naughty girl. Sometimes I still think I might have been punished for the sins of my mother. So I guess I am the survivor. An outspoken, bucket mouth survivor no one gets a chance to crap on anymore. I escaped a violent relationship and finally learned what my strengths, skills and qualities are. Take me or leave me. "I have to be myself, as you won't like me as anybody else." My kids don't get me either. That's their bad luck. If you can be close to your parents and children, go for it and enjoy it. Keep the strength.
Elle on Wheels said
08:59 PM Nov 27, 2011
You did great to survive all that Granny. I was fostered out at an early age and my mother wanted to reconcile in later life. We did so to some extent but there are too many differences. These days I have a courteous respect from a distance so that's better than nothing probably.
pauline said
09:13 PM Nov 27, 2011
Hey I was married at 16 (3 days after my birthday) for the usual reason back then, had 2 kids to my husband then made a widow at 22, he was a great bloke and I believe we would still be together if he had lived ( he was a jockey and was killed in a fall , only 28) but life goes on and I have been married now for almost 34 years to my Nev, lots of good times, lots of bad times, that's life I suppose, now our son is a jockey, I am so very proud of him though he has a lot of problems along the way, my eldest son is so like his Dad, a really nice bloke, my daughter has her own life and family and really couldn't give a rats a...rse about anyone else. We can all only do our best and hope it all works out.
milo said
12:10 AM Nov 30, 2011
sorry about your mum chris, thanks to every one for there kind words.. Id give anything to have mum back, ben and dexter (my 18 year old budgie) back and me and dad back to normal.. oh well.. such is life..
my new budgie buddy (in avatar) is doing well and so is my canery, which was mums too... they like the radio or noise from the tv...
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 30th of November 2011 12:12:34 AM
animalcarer said
08:14 AM Nov 30, 2011
After reading through these posts again, there really is a common thread with Elle, Pauline, Cruising granny, and myself.
Phew I can relate to all of you individually.
I often wonder why some of us get the curly road of life, and others just cruise along and have nothing untoward happen to them. Its a bloody mystery, I look back, and think why did I (and others) have to suffer like that.
I do take your approach granny, I really dont care anymore what anything thinks, and if people are a ... holes, I give them a wide berth, when Howard and I hit the road, I will have to do casual work, so I am very concerned that I dont work for a.....holes, I think perhaps harvest work though it is hard might suit my personality. What do you think.??
I have a problem with authority.... and abusive people, I tend to retreat(see previous melt downs) or go off my trigger. It all stems from the abuse I received from my mother. She used to bash the crap out of me, and was very cruel. Its left its mark, I can often put it in a safe place, but I am like a meerkat on sentry duty, I guess I have a internal radar that is able to pick up on things fairly quickly, I sense if someone is a good person fairly straight away.
I know this world isnt a perfect place, but now that I am 54 I just want to travel with Howard and the dogs, and pick up some nice work along the way.
Am I asking too much, Please direct me and help me, by suggesting some nice safe work options for me on my travels.
We are getting closer to achieving the market thing, bought a oztrail gazebo, still waiting to get the pantac truck, so thats a focus.
I enjoy your friendship, if there is one thing about what we have all been through individually its that we are not afraid to communicate . That surely must be healthy,
milo said
02:07 PM Nov 30, 2011
I often wonder the same things Lynette, why some have all the money in the world and others struggle why others have all the health yet smoke cigars or pipes or what ever else.. I guess its just a crazy world we live in/on defiantly doesn't make sense sometimes sorry about your early years with your mum too Lynette.. I sometimes cant understand people.. I guess its why i prefer animals to humans..
Elle on Wheels said
10:13 PM Nov 30, 2011
Yeah we're all a mixed bunch alright.
Lynette I have a feeling you will find your way on the road and the right sort of work. The main thing is you will be in charge and if you don't like the employer you can tell them to shove their job and jump in your truck spinning your wheels. Harvest work can be very hard but I understand there are some good places out there who welcome grey nomads. Sorry I can't remember but I came across some articles on the net mainly about cherry picking I think where older travellers seemed to frequent.
An income is not just about dollars, it can be measured in terms of what you do not spend. Thus if you do lots of free camping and no spending then that can offset the costs of having a job - eg petrol. caravan park fees, propper clothes etc. So house sitting is also a good option in those terms. At least you won't be spending. You already have lots of creative ideas re your dog products and you seem to have craft type skills so you might want to think about basing your travels around a country markets route so that you can sell your stuff there.
Milo like you I really like being with animals. But you gotta remember how animals relate to humans is different to how they relate to eachother - the animal world is often efficiently brutal. Maybe it's all part of the same mix. My dogs have never let me down and are always there but cheez the humans have been raggerty old lot much of the time.
pauline said
08:59 AM Dec 1, 2011
Have just spent the last 2 days very stressed out, my eldest son who is currently living in Melb checked himself into hospital on Tuesday. He suffers from diverticulitis which he inherited from me, which I inherited from my Mum, anyway I have never heard him sound so crook and felt so far away, I was just there 2 weeks ago for a quick visit, the doctor told him they would have to operate today if things did not start to improve and he may have to have a bag fitted, he is only 38 and this really scared him...............after massive doses of antibiotics straight in by drip, just got a message that he is feeling a slight improvement this morning.......phew that is a relief, still a long way to go yet but usually once they start working things clear up..............fingers crossed.
rvtraveller2 said
03:43 PM Dec 1, 2011
milo wrote:
sorry about your mum chris, thanks to every one for there kind words.. Id give anything to have mum back, ben and dexter (my 18 year old budgie) back and me and dad back to normal.. oh well.. such is life..
my new budgie buddy (in avatar) is doing well and so is my canery, which was mums too... they like the radio or noise from the tv...
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 30th of November 2011 12:12:34 AM
My parents passed away 5 yrs ago,would love to have them back,they died 6 weeks apart,they where 96 dad mum 94,old age got the better of them.They were travellers too,named there house seldomin.Didnt have the luxury we have today. rvtraveller2 neil
animalcarer said
08:19 PM Dec 1, 2011
Pauline, sorry to hear about your son, our thoughts are with you.
pauline said
08:53 PM Dec 1, 2011
Thanks Lynette, nice to know someone cares, has been a tough couple of days.............but he seems to be coming good with every hour that goes by.
Elle on Wheels said
10:49 PM Dec 1, 2011
Hey Pauline I hope things are going well with your son and that things have stabilised.
pauline said
10:58 PM Dec 1, 2011
Thanks Elle so much appreciated.................just feel so far away.
milo said
11:25 PM Dec 1, 2011
same here pauline
Travel Bug said
05:57 PM Dec 7, 2011
Pauline, I have only just caught up with this thread.
I am really sorry to hear about your son and I hope that by now, he is feeling much better.
I have 2 friends (they are brother and sister) who suffer from Diverticulitis and I do understand how painful and debilitating it can be.
Thinking of you.
Hugs.
Pam. xoxox
jonathan said
06:21 PM Dec 7, 2011
My thoughts are with your son .. having managed acute diverticulitis for the last 30 years I have a reasonable idea of what he's going through and wish him well ..
Jon
pauline said
08:23 PM Dec 7, 2011
Thanks so much Pam and Jon your kind thoughts are really appreciated, the good news is he is now home and as this goes feeling better by the minute, actually he goes back to work tomorrow............so relieved.
Ma said
08:53 PM Dec 7, 2011
Word for word exactly what Jon said Pauline
pauline said
08:57 PM Dec 7, 2011
Thanks Ma........just felt so far away from him and he kept saying the same thing......
Travel Bug said
09:13 PM Dec 8, 2011
So pleased to hear that your son is feeling better Pauline.
Our kids are always kids to us aren't they... and when they hurt...we hurt.
I cant belive its today...
5 years today since my mum passed away from dementia / Alzheimer's
Ill never ever forget her... took some flowers to her site today , so darn hot, 35 degrees.. I rang dad, he went down too.. went and saw him on the weekend, talked abit but that was about it.. anyways.. love you mum
my mum when young and as a nurse
my mum at her 80th birthday
one of the last few pics of mum and dad together before dementia set in..
she made our world a wonderfull and happy place..
-- Edited by milo on Monday 14th of November 2011 07:12:04 PM
What a pretty girl she was when she was young, and lovely when older, beautiful hair. She looks very caring. You were lucky to have a great mum, unfortunately I did not, but my nana made up for it. It doesnt matter how old you get, we still think about the people who nutured us.
Milo, what a lovely tribute to your Mum.
I am sure that she is looking down and feeling very proud of you.
I agree with TB and I am sure you were a wonderful son Milo and made her very proud.
I still miss my mum and think of her every day. Sadly I could not visit her as she is in Scotland next to my dad and brother but I know she is looking down on us all.
Jean
Welcome Scotia. Nice to have you on board.
I hope you get enjoyment from our forum.
My grandmother raised me for the next 8 years and she died when I was 14. I only remember her strict discipline, and I guess I inherited her love of gardening.
So I guess I am the survivor. An outspoken, bucket mouth survivor no one gets a chance to crap on anymore. I escaped a violent relationship and finally learned what my strengths, skills and qualities are. Take me or leave me.
"I have to be myself, as you won't like me as anybody else."
My kids don't get me either. That's their bad luck.
If you can be close to your parents and children, go for it and enjoy it.
Keep the strength.
sorry about your mum chris,
thanks to every one for there kind words.. Id give anything to have mum back, ben and dexter (my 18 year old budgie) back
and me and dad back to normal.. oh well.. such is life..
my new budgie buddy (in avatar) is doing well and so is my canery, which was mums too... they like the radio or noise from the tv...
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 30th of November 2011 12:12:34 AM
After reading through these posts again, there really is a common thread with Elle, Pauline, Cruising granny, and myself.
Phew I can relate to all of you individually.
I often wonder why some of us get the curly road of life, and others just cruise along and have nothing untoward happen to them. Its a bloody mystery, I look back, and think why did I (and others) have to suffer like that.
I do take your approach granny, I really dont care anymore what anything thinks, and if people are a ... holes, I give them a wide berth, when Howard and I hit the road, I will have to do casual work, so I am very concerned that I dont work for a.....holes, I think perhaps harvest work though it is hard might suit my personality. What do you think.??
I have a problem with authority.... and abusive people, I tend to retreat(see previous melt downs) or go off my trigger. It all stems from the abuse I received from my mother. She used to bash the crap out of me, and was very cruel. Its left its mark, I can often put it in a safe place, but I am like a meerkat on sentry duty, I guess I have a internal radar that is able to pick up on things fairly quickly, I sense if someone is a good person fairly straight away.
I know this world isnt a perfect place, but now that I am 54 I just want to travel with Howard and the dogs, and pick up some nice work along the way.
Am I asking too much, Please direct me and help me, by suggesting some nice safe work options for me on my travels.
We are getting closer to achieving the market thing, bought a oztrail gazebo, still waiting to get the pantac truck, so thats a focus.
I enjoy your friendship, if there is one thing about what we have all been through individually its that we are not afraid to communicate . That surely must be healthy,
why others have all the health yet smoke cigars or pipes or what ever else..
I guess its just a crazy world we live in/on defiantly doesn't make sense sometimes
sorry about your early years with your mum too Lynette..
I sometimes cant understand people..
I guess its why i prefer animals to humans..
Lynette I have a feeling you will find your way on the road and the right sort of work. The main thing is you will be in charge and if you don't like the employer you can tell them to shove their job and jump in your truck spinning your wheels. Harvest work can be very hard but I understand there are some good places out there who welcome grey nomads. Sorry I can't remember but I came across some articles on the net mainly about cherry picking I think where older travellers seemed to frequent.
An income is not just about dollars, it can be measured in terms of what you do not spend. Thus if you do lots of free camping and no spending then that can offset the costs of having a job - eg petrol. caravan park fees, propper clothes etc. So house sitting is also a good option in those terms. At least you won't be spending. You already have lots of creative ideas re your dog products and you seem to have craft type skills so you might want to think about basing your travels around a country markets route so that you can sell your stuff there.
Milo like you I really like being with animals. But you gotta remember how animals relate to humans is different to how they relate to eachother - the animal world is often efficiently brutal. Maybe it's all part of the same mix. My dogs have never let me down and are always there but cheez the humans have been raggerty old lot much of the time.
My parents passed away 5 yrs ago,would love to have them back,they died 6 weeks apart,they where 96 dad mum 94,old age got the better of them.They were travellers too,named there house seldomin.Didnt have the luxury we have today. rvtraveller2 neil
Pauline, sorry to hear about your son, our thoughts are with you.
Pauline, I have only just caught up with this thread.
I am really sorry to hear about your son and I hope that by now, he is feeling much better.
I have 2 friends (they are brother and sister) who suffer from Diverticulitis and I do understand how painful and debilitating it can be.
Thinking of you.
Hugs.
Pam. xoxox
My thoughts are with your son .. having managed acute diverticulitis for the last 30 years I have a reasonable idea of what he's going through and wish him well ..
Jon
Word for word exactly what Jon said Pauline
So pleased to hear that your son is feeling better Pauline.
Our kids are always kids to us aren't they...
and when they hurt...we hurt.
Cheers.