Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.
jonathan said
07:08 PM Jun 18, 2011
Gee Capt ..
I'm sorry you feel that way .. I musta been 'lucky' then .. was married after 3 months and 'lucky' for 34 years ..
Jon
Ma said
07:09 PM Jun 18, 2011
Think I'll keep my bloke with me......
Firefly said
07:21 PM Jun 18, 2011
Women are from Venus, men from Mars so the say Creamy.
Sheba said
08:05 PM Jun 18, 2011
There is a great song that goes :-
"Live close by, but visit often,
That'll work, that'll work for me."
Can't remember the rest of it. Will have to try and write what I can down next time I hear it.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Saturday 18th of June 2011 08:09:24 PM
-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 19th of June 2011 06:18:09 PM
Cruising Granny said
08:48 PM Jun 18, 2011
I don't do relationships good either. I'm a great mate and friend but I just can't get that other part right. There's nothing wrong with me, it's everyone else. And if I believed that I'd be in a cave. They say there's someone for everyone, so I'm just hanging around waiting for my someone. I keep finding out why the blokes are single, and I haven't had an offer I couldn't refuse. To find one's best friend, partner, confidante and trusted companion must be a bonus of life. Here's a little something I wrote some time ago.
Life is no utopia, In fact I think Im getting dopier. While living alone is not ideal Its the preferred option I feel.
I need family and friends But fear when the relationship ends. Love is such a powerful emotion But when its gone Im still alone.
How is love measured? Giving and receiving from close ones treasured? Or the level of honesty and sharing To demonstrate the level of caring.
Love creates such vulnerability. Open hearts leave space for the ability To be happy and content, Or broken and crushed with discontent.
Its safer to keep distant Make friends and acquaintances But dont get too close To avoid the hurt being worse.
Love is scary, we receive and we give. I dont know how much is left as I live. Are we born with a measured amount And when its gone its all out.
Is love a renewable emotion? Or do we lose it when we give? Does it recover and return When someone gives us love?
justjo said
03:23 AM Jun 19, 2011
Cruising Granny ...Thanks for the poem, I stopped with relationships a long time ago and your verse describes perfectly why!
Have loads of friends but perfectly content alone as relationships and me don't gel :)
Beth54 said
05:24 PM Jun 19, 2011
My Mum, in her later years, said men and women should live seperately, and just have outings together. She didn't have the greatest of marriages, but they were still together when she passed over.
Having been through 2 marriages and 1 great love affair, I think I agree with Mum these days.
lilly31 said
06:10 PM Jun 19, 2011
-- Edited by lilly31 on Sunday 19th of June 2011 09:18:36 PM
gubby said
07:11 PM Jun 19, 2011
I realise this is the solo grey nomads section but I've just got to have my two bobs worth.
I've been married for more than 37 years, funnily enough so has my wife (yes to each other) and I wouldn't change a thing. We have had our ups & downs but we emerge from the downs stronger.
Some may say we are just lucky but I believe a marriage is something Precious to be worked at.
I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"
Gubby
DeBe said
07:58 PM Jun 19, 2011
Me & ElBe been married 41Yrs & i think life without the other half would be very lonely.
Sheba said
09:31 PM Jun 19, 2011
Not saying a good marriage is impossible, but in my experience a lot of people [I know both sexes can be at fault] take everything, Physically, Emotionally, and Financially, and give absolutely nothing in return.
I've tried 3 times, and won't be investing in another relationship. I value my Peace of Mind, and Freedom too much.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 19th of June 2011 09:32:10 PM
Cruising Granny said
10:39 PM Jun 19, 2011
gubby wrote:
I realise this is the solo grey nomads section but I've just got to have my two bobs worth.
I've been married for more than 37 years, funnily enough so has my wife (yes to each other) and I wouldn't change a thing. We have had our ups & downs but we emerge from the downs stronger.
Some may say we are just lucky but I believe a marriage is something Precious to be worked at.
I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"
Gubby
Can In keep the change from that 2 bob's worth? That's a very valuable 2 bob. You're very lucky you care enough for each other to work it out together. Relationships are a 2-way street centred on mutual respect and friendship. That's my "theory" anyway. What the heck would I know? I've been seriously single since 1982 and in that time I've learned who I am, raised my girls, run a couple of businesses and travelled learning new skills all the way. Now I seem to scare blokes because of what I do, and how I do it, independently, by myself. I'd love to share it. You guys seem to have the recipe right. Can you pass it on please?
capt cream bun said
11:41 PM Jun 19, 2011
I possed the question / statement because i wondered if there is a special connection between solists and singlton. I think there often is. No one i know likes being hurt so maybe a travelling solo has found the umtimate free camp?
" Plain women know more about men than beautiful women do."
Plain men... well... umm..drink beer?
jonathan said
04:37 AM Jun 20, 2011
.. I agree with you Gubby .. whole heartedly .. !
.. and yes CG, its definitely a 2-way street .. but it helps if you both are travelling in the same direction ..
Jon
Sheba said
07:20 AM Jun 20, 2011
jonathan wrote:
.. and yes CG, its definitely a 2-way street .. but it helps if you both are travelling in the same direction ..
Jon
My point exactly Jon.
Cheers,
Sheba.
gubby said
08:09 AM Jun 20, 2011
I wasn't having a dig at anyone, just giving a another view. As I said at the end:
'I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"'
Gubby
Esmeralda said
04:21 PM Jun 20, 2011
I am quite happy to be single, but I do believe in happy relationships - my parents have been happily married for 60 years and very close.
Happywanderer said
04:38 PM Jun 20, 2011
Being a Gemini I see it from both sides as well. As much as I would love to be sitting in rocking chairs in the sunset with my soulmate. I also enjoy being by myself and not having anyone to answer to. How do I solve that one??
lilly31 said
04:40 PM Jun 20, 2011
gubby wrote:
I wasn't having a dig at anyone, just giving a another view. As I said at the end:
'I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"'
Gubby
I for one didnt think you were haveing a go at anyone ..you were giving as you said your two bobs worth and that a good thing ...that why we are all different and hopefully intresting because we dont all see thing the same ..and we all have different views because of our lives and how they have played out .
-- Edited by lilly31 on Monday 20th of June 2011 11:06:15 PM
Travel Bug said
04:44 PM Jun 20, 2011
Happywanderer wrote:
Being a Gemini I see it from both sides as well. As much as I would love to be sitting in rocking chairs in the sunset with my soulmate. I also enjoy being by myself and not having anyone to answer to. How do I solve that one??
When...or if...you do solve it Marj, please be sure to let me know because I have the same dilemma.
Cheers. Pam.
Happywanderer said
04:48 PM Jun 20, 2011
Haha!! Pam. As long as its not us sharing the rocking chairs eh? It is a gemini thing then?
Travel Bug said
04:59 PM Jun 20, 2011
Marj, I don't think it can only be a Gemini thing cos' I just slip into the next star sign....
Maybe we just want the best of both worlds.....
(Edited for typo)
-- Edited by Travel Bug on Monday 20th of June 2011 05:01:31 PM
jonathan said
05:53 PM Jun 20, 2011
Shucks !! .. won't discuss the pro's & con's of an ARCHER then .. heh !
Jon
Happywanderer said
06:15 PM Jun 20, 2011
Which ones the Archer Jon??
Sheba said
06:48 PM Jun 20, 2011
That's Sagittarius . That was Husband No.1.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Monday 20th of June 2011 06:50:50 PM
Happywanderer said
06:52 PM Jun 20, 2011
Have no idea Sheba. Don't know them all.
Ah Travel Bug, you are just on the cusp.
tonyd said
01:26 AM Jun 21, 2011
Oscar Wilde remarked that a second marriage was a triumph of hope over experience. Can't help but agree.
jules47 said
08:14 AM Jun 21, 2011
Had a great husband for almost 40 years - lots of ups and downs, more ups than downs tho - and I miss him every day - but I am getting used to being on my own, making decisions without considering anyone else, not actively looking for anyone else. As my niece said - how could you settle for the rest, when you had the best.
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.
Gee Capt ..
I'm sorry you feel that way .. I musta been 'lucky' then .. was married after 3 months and 'lucky' for 34 years ..
Jon
Think I'll keep my bloke with me......
Women are from Venus, men from Mars so the say Creamy.
There is a great song that goes :-
"Live close by, but visit often,
That'll work, that'll work for me."
Can't remember the rest of it. Will have to try and write what I can down next time I hear it.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Saturday 18th of June 2011 08:09:24 PM
-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 19th of June 2011 06:18:09 PM
There's nothing wrong with me, it's everyone else. And if I believed that I'd be in a cave.
They say there's someone for everyone, so I'm just hanging around waiting for my someone.
I keep finding out why the blokes are single, and I haven't had an offer I couldn't refuse.
To find one's best friend, partner, confidante and trusted companion must be a bonus of life.
Here's a little something I wrote some time ago.
LOVE HURTS FROM A DISTANCE ©
Life is no utopia,
In fact I think Im getting dopier.
While living alone is not ideal
Its the preferred option I feel.
I need family and friends
But fear when the relationship ends.
Love is such a powerful emotion
But when its gone Im still alone.
How is love measured?
Giving and receiving from close ones treasured?
Or the level of honesty and sharing
To demonstrate the level of caring.
Love creates such vulnerability.
Open hearts leave space for the ability
To be happy and content,
Or broken and crushed with discontent.
Its safer to keep distant
Make friends and acquaintances
But dont get too close
To avoid the hurt being worse.
Love is scary, we receive and we give.
I dont know how much is left as I live.
Are we born with a measured amount
And when its gone its all out.
Is love a renewable emotion?
Or do we lose it when we give?
Does it recover and return
When someone gives us love?
Cruising Granny ...Thanks for the poem, I stopped with relationships a long time ago and your verse describes perfectly why!
Have loads of friends but perfectly content alone as relationships and me don't gel :)
My Mum, in her later years, said men and women should live seperately, and just have outings together. She didn't have the greatest of marriages, but they were still together when she passed over.
Having been through 2 marriages and 1 great love affair, I think I agree with Mum these days.
-- Edited by lilly31 on Sunday 19th of June 2011 09:18:36 PM
I realise this is the solo grey nomads section but I've just got to have my two bobs worth.
I've been married for more than 37 years, funnily enough so has my wife (yes to each other) and I wouldn't change a thing. We have had our ups & downs but we emerge from the downs stronger.
Some may say we are just lucky but I believe a marriage is something Precious to be worked at.
I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"
Gubby
Me & ElBe been married 41Yrs & i think life without the other half would be very lonely.
Not saying a good marriage is impossible, but in my experience a lot of people [I know both sexes can be at fault] take everything, Physically, Emotionally, and Financially, and give absolutely nothing in return.
I've tried 3 times, and won't be investing in another relationship. I value my Peace of Mind, and Freedom too much.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Sunday 19th of June 2011 09:32:10 PM
Can In keep the change from that 2 bob's worth?
That's a very valuable 2 bob. You're very lucky you care enough for each other to work it out together.
Relationships are a 2-way street centred on mutual respect and friendship.
That's my "theory" anyway. What the heck would I know? I've been seriously single since 1982 and in that time I've learned who I am, raised my girls, run a couple of businesses and travelled learning new skills all the way. Now I seem to scare blokes because of what I do, and how I do it, independently, by myself. I'd love to share it.
You guys seem to have the recipe right.
Can you pass it on please?
I possed the question / statement because i wondered if there is a special connection between solists and singlton. I think there often is. No one i know likes being hurt so maybe a travelling solo has found the umtimate free camp?
" Plain women know more about men than beautiful women do."
Plain men... well... umm..drink beer?
.. I agree with you Gubby .. whole heartedly .. !
.. and yes CG, its definitely a 2-way street .. but it helps if you both are travelling in the same direction ..
Jon
I wasn't having a dig at anyone, just giving a another view. As I said at the end:
'I know people and relationships are all different but like I said, "That's my two bobs worth"'
Gubby
I for one didnt think you were haveing a go at anyone ..you were giving as you said your two bobs worth and that a good thing ...that why we are all different and hopefully intresting because we dont all see thing the same ..and we all have different views because of our lives and how they have played out .
-- Edited by lilly31 on Monday 20th of June 2011 11:06:15 PM
Happywanderer wrote:
Being a Gemini I see it from both sides as well. As much as I would love to be sitting in rocking chairs in the sunset with my soulmate. I also enjoy being by myself and not having anyone to answer to. How do I solve that one??
__________________________________________________________________
When...or if...you do solve it Marj, please be sure to let me know because I have the same dilemma.
Cheers. Pam.
Marj, I don't think it can only be a Gemini thing cos' I just slip into the next star sign....
Maybe we just want the best of both worlds.....
(Edited for typo)
-- Edited by Travel Bug on Monday 20th of June 2011 05:01:31 PM
Shucks !! .. won't discuss the pro's & con's of an ARCHER then .. heh !
Jon
That's Sagittarius . That was Husband No.1.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Monday 20th of June 2011 06:50:50 PM
Ah Travel Bug, you are just on the cusp.
Can't help but agree.