well i guess we are all guilty of it from time to time, feeling sorry for ones  self that is, i know i am and maybe a bit to often, however the past few days i have been feeling just such and i must say for no real particular reason, that was until i heard about the second explosion at the coal mine in New Zealand, now 29 familes will be having a rather crappy xmas, not that there is anything that  as an individual can do about that, but it does set one to thinking that maybe feeling sorry for yourself isn't the way to go,, and to top it off a very dear friend is diying from cancer and is in hopspital and isn't extected to last the month, so again her family are looking like having a crappy xmas as well,,,maybe it's time to step back and refelct on whats important and whats not, i dunno it's just the way i'm feeling right now, and perhap if you are feeling a bit sorry for yourself perhaps step back and ask yourself why ?

I agree BB.   We can all indulge in self pity and feeling sorry for ourselves from time to time.

So, like you say, step back take a good long hard look at where you are and where you want to go and do something positive about going forward.

Remember, money doesn't buy happiness or health.  If you have the opportunity, get out there, do what you dream of and realise there is always someone else that is in a far worse situation than we are.

It doesn't matter what material things you accumulate they mean absolutely zero in the scheme of things.  A tin humpy with a dirt floor is a castle if there is love and respect between the inhabitants.  A mansion can be a house but without the aforementioned it will never be a home.

Very well said, Ma!

hi bb, there are 2 things i try not to do, one is wish for something, the second is feel sorry for my self.. there is not time to do either.. dreaming is the best.. with out dreams where would we be..and yes it is sad in NZ.. have mined under ground, not a good feeling at times.. life rolls on no matter how hard it gets for some.. Have a good xmas and remember that's one less you will have..

Its always good to to take stock from time to time and think why are we so lucky to live in Australia were we are looked after so well by Governments if we need help with health and pension we are so lucky

In the world today is so much sorrow, pain, wars, sickness, earthquakes, and other natural disasters far too many to think of. I am living my life loving every day I am on this side of the dirt. Its the small things that matter, grandkids calling out Nan when they see me. My children ringing to say, Mum, Dad I love you. My "old boy" caring for me and me for him. Getting round the country side in our old van, lucky we live in Australia where we can get health care and pensions from the Govt like Brickies says. And like Ma says, a house is not a home without love in it. I feel very sorry for the lost Miners in NZ and their familys. The people suffering from incurable diseases, my sister inlaw has cancer, we lost a friend only a month or two ago. I thank God for what I've have and intend to make the most of the life I have left. Cheers Val

Spot on MA, reminds me of a little thing i read recently, mony can buy a house not a home ;;;  mony can buy sex but not love;;
It does take a jolt to make us step back & reacess things, I done that when we had that missile through the car window,lucky to be here & also makes you think of the what ifss.

I sometimes feel useless when I can't contribute to help those affected by adversity. All I can do is count my blessings, and be thankful I can put both feet on the floor each morning.

i have been really flat the last coulple of months, no energy, nothing, guess i too have had a lot in my life latly, id love to be able to solve world issuies or help others, which i try to when i can , but its hard enough with my own life and the things we go thru on a daily basis, i felt like having a few drinks tonite , but it was so hot i couldnt be bothered, been my whole mood latley, and i dont celebrate christmas, havent for a long time too close to when mum .. any ways too much of my crappy ranting..

Milo kept posting we miss you , kept drinking your milo and keep planing your future

 well i for one am sick of feeling sorry for myself,, i know that i am far better off now than i have been, well for a long time i'd say i can't help the needy of this world and i can't help those who have lost people they love and care about no matter how much i'd like to,,,my heart does go out to those who are less fortunate than me,, however "but for the grace of god go i" i don't really know what that means,, but i know that work, for me is a means of doing other things not and end in itself,, i may not be able to just "take off" and see what there is to see just yet but ii there's somewhere i want to go or something i want to try then if it doesn't hurt anyone by doing it why the hell not....... life is for living not waiting to die thats for sure,, that time will come soon enough i think we all need to do some "spring cleaning" of our thoughts and emotions from time to time, if for no other reason than to make room for what is to come.....**** that's deep !!!!

Deep but true BB

Hey BB, Milo...... Chin up you guys. You really do have a lot going for you, you know!!! I recently had to have 2 operations in 2 weeks...2 weeks in a wheelchair, unable to move, walk, or take care of myself. I consider myself lucky!! My misery was only for a short time!!! There are a whole lot of people out ther that have nothing..and I mean...nothing... going for them. Milo...you sound like you have a wonderful, kind, heart. That in itself is something that is lacking in this world. You HAVE one... Not too many do!!! BB, you have the ability to dream, and with that, comes the ability to "make it happen"!!! The secret is ...DONT give up. Work for it, and never be afraid to ask for help if the going gets tough. Chin up guys Dellie

hey I'm good, sometimes i need to remind myself of what i have now as compared to what i had sometime ago and i'm in front by a country mile thats for sure,, sometime i just need a kick in the ass to remiind me of that, even if i have to do the kicking myself LOL

Hey, we could all go there, well I know I could very easily and reiterate everything both beachball and milo have written. But I won't. I will just think it and move on.

Because I am feeling it mate but not willing to share it, sorry if that offends. You have no idea unless you walk in my shoes.
If you read my post again you will see I was agreeing with you, slinks out backwards, why bother.

-- Edited by Happywanderer on Tuesday 30th of November 2010 02:12:56 PM

Hey BB, you of all people should know... You can't direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails, cut the anchor and away. Johnw

jandas fun wrote:

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Hey BB, you of all people should know...
You can't direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails,
cut the anchor and away.


Johnw

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what the hell does that mean ??? , it is possible to sail against the wind !!

 

Happywanderer wrote:

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Because I am feeling it mate but not willing to share it, sorry if that offends. You have no idea unless you walk in my shoes.
If you read my post again you will see I was agreeing with you, slinks out backwards, why bother.

-- Edited by Happywanderer on Tuesday 30th of November 2010 02:12:56 PM

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i wasn't offended, and i was mearly speaking for myself no one else

 

-- Edited by beachball57 on Tuesday 30th of November 2010 05:43:10 PM