I noticed him on here sometime yesterday or the night before but he didn't comment anywhere. I fear he might be quite depressed. Does anyone live near him who could go and check up on him??
Ma said
02:14 PM Oct 23, 2011
I live about 45 minutes away from Jason (Milo) but don't know where he lives and haven't been able to find his phone number either. Will keep trying. I see him around Ulladulla occasionally so will keep an eye out for him.
milo said
02:38 PM Oct 23, 2011
Hi all, thanks for your concerns and pms ,much appreciated ..
Ma I live in nowra,
Im ok , just totaly shattered and heart broken, trying not to beat myself up about all this see, i havent known anything else for the last ten years, when mum was alive and dementia I'd look after her when dad wet out and did his legacy work etc then she passed on nearly 5 years ago,and ever since its been me and dad, almost every day, except when we've been away on our own trips etc..
I thought id go over and clean out the tardis and wash it, thought it would break the ice so to speak think im going to need more than the titanic to break this iceberg... I need a miricile or some thing.. i think im the only one out of all the family that have spent this much time with dad, they do what they can and i respect that...
even when i messed up big time nearly ten years ago it wasnt as bad as this... I am just so frustrated, angry and heartbroken.... i dont think dad harldy said 2 words to me or even looked at me as i was there.. its going to be a long time before were even close to normal.. ill still keep logging in and seing my friends on here, i got no where else to go...
it was the cheapest i can afford right now, need a couple of days away..
milo
-- Edited by milo on Sunday 23rd of October 2011 04:55:51 PM
Sheba said
05:27 PM Oct 23, 2011
Just back from a couple of days away, getting organised for my House/animal sitting stint.
I feel so bad for you Milo. Wish I could just wiggle my nose and fix it for you, but it doesn't work that way I'm afraid.
Be patient mate. Looks like it's going to take longer than we all hoped.
Just remember we're all thinking of you.
Hope you had a reasonably good break away. [All things considered.]
Cheers,
Sheba.
milo said
05:54 PM Oct 23, 2011
Sheba wrote:
Just back from a couple of days away, getting organised for my House/animal sitting stint.
I feel so bad for you Milo. Wish I could just wiggle my nose and fix it for you, but it doesn't work that way I'm afraid.
Be patient mate. Looks like it's going to take longer than we all hoped.
Just remember we're all thinking of you.
Hope you had a reasonably good break away. [All things considered.]
Cheers,
Sheba.
thanks sheba, its not till the 4th november.. but i just need to get away...
ill see how i go by this time next week..if i go or not..
-- Edited by milo on Sunday 23rd of October 2011 09:19:04 PM
Happywanderer said
10:41 AM Oct 24, 2011
milo, you are being far too hard on yourself. I feel for you what you must be going through, but stop beating yourself up. Maybe time to say to your dad, " I did nothing wrong, so stop giving me a hard time, you dad are ruining a great relationship we have had all these years" Then walk out and leave him to approach you once he has thought about it.
Vic said
11:38 AM Oct 24, 2011
Happywanderer wrote:
milo, you are being far too hard on yourself. I feel for you what you must be going through, but stop beating yourself up. Maybe time to say to your dad, " I did nothing wrong, so stop giving me a hard time, you dad are ruining a great relationship we have had all these years" Then walk out and leave him to approach you once he has thought about it.
........and because the Tardis is his, don't be suprised if he tell you to bugger off when you offer to clean it, so don't be upset if he does. I would leave it alone for the time being.
Please give those numbers I gave you further up the thread a ring, there is no shame in that and they are trained to listen and will help you work through the problem.........
-- Edited by Vic on Monday 24th of October 2011 11:40:11 AM
milo said
03:03 PM Oct 24, 2011
thanks guys, vic dad asked me last week to wash it.. any ways.. my sister and i both agree we should just leave him be for a while im going to cancel the batemans bay trip as im going to adelaide in november / december..
-- Edited by milo on Monday 24th of October 2011 03:03:38 PM
Vic said
03:50 PM Oct 24, 2011
No worries Milo, just do the best for yourself and your own peace of mind, Adelaide sounds great.
I did a lot of long distance travel in a little Holden Astra years ago, bought my self a two man tent and also a sleeping bag type tent which I used for my accomodation, mostly free camping but also in Caravan parks, worked out well and a little more comfortable than sleeping in a car.
If you using the sleeping bag type just be careful to put it in a place where it is protected, someone nearly ran over me once, reckoned they couldn't see me........
-- Edited by Vic on Monday 24th of October 2011 07:29:39 PM
milo said
05:08 PM Oct 26, 2011
cheers vic..
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 26th of October 2011 06:54:33 PM
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 26th of October 2011 09:51:31 PM
milo said
02:08 PM Oct 29, 2011
well , thats it then .. went to see dad , as it had been a week, and we had a talk not a heated one but just one that we didnt enjoy.. basicly we are ok on terms, but dad has said for me not to go over every day like i was before, or to call me every day, maybe once a week or once a fortnight.. we talked about my finances and how a friend has helped me out working things out so i know where i am and he's ok with that.. but our relationship we had has gone.. so i might as well be living in another state/country or universe.. i dunno.. darn families, nothing like it is on tv.. i hope one day to get myself a little campervan and just do some travelling on my own in the next couple years, maybe settle myself down in adelaide next year. who knows..its going to be different now.. if only i kept my mouth shut..
Gerty Dancer said
06:35 PM Oct 29, 2011
milo wrote:
if only i kept my mouth shut..
I've been getting angry as I read through this thread.
NO! Milo, you did the right thing, as any concerned son would do! That wretched Doctor is the one who should have kept his big mouth shut! How dare he blab it all out to your Dad in such a way! I would go and see that doctor and demand an apology! Without paying for a consultation!
ChiChi1 said
06:59 PM Oct 29, 2011
Yes, its all about the privacy laws today. But a simple thing by a doctor, who should have cosidered this first up has broken these rules. He also should have had more sense and thought about his words.
Milo, your dad seems to be very concerned about his independance at the moment and is saying to himself "I don't want people interferring with my life" However, he WILL need you. Just wait until that time comes and everythig will work out.. Be patient with him and let him work through it.
milo said
07:14 PM Oct 29, 2011
i think your right ChiChi, might just have to wait n see i guess.. dad said the thing with the docs is only bout health confidnce... who knows..
pauline said
09:58 PM Oct 29, 2011
Space Milo Space, eventually he will come to you, he probably feels like after all the years of being the parent he is now being treated like a kid, BUT you really did do the right thing it was your Doctor who did the wrong thing, just try and chill out for awhile and pursue other interests.
Sheba said
12:50 AM Oct 30, 2011
Gotta agree with all the others Milo. You did the right thing. I'm sure your father will come around again in time. It looks as though it might take a bit longer than we all hoped though.
Chin up, and find some more interests to help pass the time.
Cheers,
Sheba.
milo said
02:05 AM Oct 30, 2011
thank you all for being so caring, all in your own ways. much appreciated, just going to give it till early next year before i make any drastic life changes.. this has been very very tough..thanks again every one..
Vic said
01:26 PM Oct 30, 2011
Hi Milo,
I have posted this before, but this is how one lady used here Getz for travelling, she was near Perth having travelled over from Queensland, doing a lot of house sitting etc along the way. The pic was taken at the Lake Leschenaultia campground, near Chidlow which is just off Gt Eastern Hwy 50 kms north of Perth. (google Lake Leschenaultia);
She hadn't removed any seats etc, just laid the passenger one down and put some sort of camp stretcher or folding bed over that side for her sleeping, carried a small gas stove for cooking at free camps and a small electric one for when she had power. Also a small table to do the cooking on outside if nowhere near a camp kitchen etc. Also had a nice comfortable chair and wi fi laptop. She had velcroed insect netting around the rear of the car hatch so she could leave it open if she wanted to or could take it on or off and of course her "awning" which stuck on one side of the car with suction cups. As a temporary measure you could use your car in a similar manner.
I was very impressed with her "budget" set up and the way she had done it all herself with no expensive conversions etc, I did give her the GN website but haven't seen any posts from her on here yet, but she may be a "silent" member. See her rig here;
-- Edited by Vic on Sunday 30th of October 2011 01:37:19 PM
I had a vague idea of doing something like that when I bought my i30. I even made the salesman get in and lie down to see if it was long enough with the back seats down! It folds flat so I wouldn't have bothered with the stretcher, just throw in a mattress. I think one would have to be a bit nimble to crawl into the back....which I most definitely am not! The i30 wagon would be easier as there's no 'lip' at the back, and it's a little longer.
milo said
07:05 PM Nov 5, 2011
thanks guys, im thinking ill just keep saving for my campervan... ill know it when i see it, looked at the corimals today at our local yard but all in all i feel a campervan still the best way for me..
looked at a campervan there as well, and i realize thats what i want,
will see what happes
-- Edited by milo on Saturday 5th of November 2011 07:20:40 PM
milo said
05:39 PM Nov 21, 2011
well, dad and i have had a good yarn.. ok i think now, but wont be like it was ... we've a greed to disagree on things and whats happened from whats been on and other stuff thats gone on, so i can live with that if he can.. thats all i can do now.. done my best..
Happywanderer said
06:22 PM Nov 21, 2011
You've done well milo, don't expect any more than that. There are lots of family members who agree to disagree and just move on. Start again from today, don't make a big deal out of it and just be friends. You will both be ok.
Sheba said
07:19 PM Nov 21, 2011
Glad you're still talking Milo. I think he does realise you only had his best interests at heart, but still wants to feel in control.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Monday 21st of November 2011 07:21:47 PM
I live about 45 minutes away from Jason (Milo) but don't know where he lives and haven't been able to find his phone number either. Will keep trying. I see him around Ulladulla occasionally so will keep an eye out for him.
Hi all, thanks for your concerns and pms ,much appreciated ..
Ma I live in nowra,
Im ok , just totaly shattered and heart broken, trying not to beat myself up about all this
see, i havent known anything else for the last ten years,
when mum was alive and dementia I'd look after her when dad wet out and did his legacy work etc
then she passed on nearly 5 years ago,and ever since its been me and dad, almost every day, except when we've been
away on our own trips etc..
I thought id go over and clean out the tardis and wash it, thought it would break the ice so to speak
think im going to need more than the titanic to break this iceberg... I need a miricile or some thing..
i think im the only one out of all the family that have spent this much time with dad, they do what they can
and i respect that...
even when i messed up big time nearly ten years ago it wasnt as bad as this...
I am just so frustrated, angry and heartbroken.... i dont think dad harldy said 2 words to me or even looked at me
as i was there.. its going to be a long time before were even close to normal..
ill still keep logging in and seing my friends on here, i got no where else to go...
its been a rough ride.. and i want to get off...
ive booked in at
Batemans Bay North Tourist Park
http://maps.google.com.au/maps/place?cid=3708743975461377740&q=caravan+parks+batemans+bay+nsw&hl=en-GB&gl=au&ved=0CE4Q-gswAg&sa=X&ei=V6CjTtz0MMi6kgWqgZG3CA&sig2=zN3cbeYwL3MVwdEB0ExDMQ
it was the cheapest i can afford right now, need a couple of days away..
milo
-- Edited by milo on Sunday 23rd of October 2011 04:55:51 PM
Just back from a couple of days away, getting organised for my House/animal sitting stint.
I feel so bad for you Milo. Wish I could just wiggle my nose and fix it for you, but it doesn't work that way I'm afraid.
Be patient mate. Looks like it's going to take longer than we all hoped.
Just remember we're all thinking of you.
Hope you had a reasonably good break away. [All things considered.]
Cheers,
Sheba.
thanks sheba, its not till the 4th november.. but i just need to get away...
ill see how i go by this time next week..if i go or not..
-- Edited by milo on Sunday 23rd of October 2011 09:19:04 PM
Maybe time to say to your dad, " I did nothing wrong, so stop giving me a hard time, you dad are ruining a great relationship we have had all these years" Then walk out and leave him to approach you once he has thought about it.
........and because the Tardis is his, don't be suprised if he tell you to bugger off when you offer to clean it, so don't be upset if he does. I would leave it alone for the time being.
Please give those numbers I gave you further up the thread a ring, there is no shame in that and they are trained to listen and will help you work through the problem.........
-- Edited by Vic on Monday 24th of October 2011 11:40:11 AM
thanks guys, vic dad asked me last week to wash it.. any ways.. my sister and i both agree we should just leave him be for a while
im going to cancel the batemans bay trip as im going to adelaide in november / december..
-- Edited by milo on Monday 24th of October 2011 03:03:38 PM
No worries Milo, just do the best for yourself and your own peace of mind, Adelaide sounds great.
I did a lot of long distance travel in a little Holden Astra years ago, bought my self a two man tent and also a sleeping bag type tent which I used for my accomodation, mostly free camping but also in Caravan parks, worked out well and a little more comfortable than sleeping in a car.
If you using the sleeping bag type just be careful to put it in a place where it is protected, someone nearly ran over me once, reckoned they couldn't see me........
-- Edited by Vic on Monday 24th of October 2011 07:29:39 PM
cheers vic..
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 26th of October 2011 06:54:33 PM
-- Edited by milo on Wednesday 26th of October 2011 09:51:31 PM
went to see dad , as it had been a week, and we had a talk
not a heated one but just one that we didnt enjoy..
basicly we are ok on terms, but dad has said for me not to go over every
day like i was before, or to call me every day, maybe once a week or once a fortnight..
we talked about my finances and how a friend has helped me out working things out so i know
where i am and he's ok with that.. but our relationship we had has gone..
so i might as well be living in another state/country or universe..
i dunno.. darn families, nothing like it is on tv.. i hope one day to get myself a little campervan
and just do some travelling on my own in the next couple years, maybe settle myself down in adelaide next
year. who knows..its going to be different now.. if only i kept my mouth shut..
I've been getting angry as I read through this thread.
NO! Milo, you did the right thing, as any concerned son would do! That wretched Doctor is the one who should have kept his big mouth shut! How dare he blab it all out to your Dad in such a way! I would go and see that doctor and demand an apology! Without paying for a consultation!
Milo, your dad seems to be very concerned about his independance at the moment and is saying to himself "I don't want people interferring with my life" However, he WILL need you. Just wait until that time comes and everythig will work out.. Be patient with him and let him work through it.
who knows..
Gotta agree with all the others Milo. You did the right thing. I'm sure your father will come around again in time. It looks as though it might take a bit longer than we all hoped though.
Chin up, and find some more interests to help pass the time.
Cheers,
Sheba.
just going to give it till early next year before i make any drastic life changes..
this has been very very tough..thanks again every one..
Hi Milo,
I have posted this before, but this is how one lady used here Getz for travelling, she was near Perth having travelled over from Queensland, doing a lot of house sitting etc along the way. The pic was taken at the Lake Leschenaultia campground, near Chidlow which is just off Gt Eastern Hwy 50 kms north of Perth. (google Lake Leschenaultia);
She hadn't removed any seats etc, just laid the passenger one down and put some sort of camp stretcher or folding bed over that side for her sleeping, carried a small gas stove for cooking at free camps and a small electric one for when she had power. Also a small table to do the cooking on outside if nowhere near a camp kitchen etc. Also had a nice comfortable chair and wi fi laptop. She had velcroed insect netting around the rear of the car hatch so she could leave it open if she wanted to or could take it on or off and of course her "awning" which stuck on one side of the car with suction cups. As a temporary measure you could use your car in a similar manner.
I was very impressed with her "budget" set up and the way she had done it all herself with no expensive conversions etc, I did give her the GN website but haven't seen any posts from her on here yet, but she may be a "silent" member. See her rig here;
-- Edited by Vic on Sunday 30th of October 2011 01:37:19 PM
I had a vague idea of doing something like that when I bought my i30. I even made the salesman get in and lie down to see if it was long enough with the back seats down! It folds flat so I wouldn't have bothered with the stretcher, just throw in a mattress. I think one would have to be a bit nimble to crawl into the back....which I most definitely am not! The i30 wagon would be easier as there's no 'lip' at the back, and it's a little longer.
thanks guys, im thinking ill just keep saving for my campervan... ill know it when i see it, looked at the corimals today at our local yard
but all in all i feel a campervan still the best way for me..
looked at a campervan there as well, and i realize thats what i want,
will see what happes
-- Edited by milo on Saturday 5th of November 2011 07:20:40 PM
ok i think now, but wont be like it was ...
we've a greed to disagree on things and whats happened from whats been on
and other stuff thats gone on, so i can live with that if he can.. thats all i can do now..
done my best..
Start again from today, don't make a big deal out of it and just be friends. You will both be ok.
Glad you're still talking Milo. I think he does realise you only had his best interests at heart, but still wants to feel in control.
Cheers,
Sheba.
-- Edited by Sheba on Monday 21st of November 2011 07:21:47 PM