I don't like being called lov, honey, darl, etc. by shop keepers
Lesley F said
05:00 PM Apr 19, 2015
I have a bee in my bonnet, when cashiers and shop staff call me Love, Honey, Darl, Sweety, or similar it annoys me.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't call another woman, especially a stranger, using those words.
I often ask if the woman employee is trying to chat me up?, they tend to take a step back.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure men don't suffer the same, by being called Dude, mate, guy, chap, bloke, sexy, hunk, etc.
I'm OK with G'day, How ya going, good morning/afternoon, Hi there, Hello, etc., but not terms of endearment.
D and D said
06:03 PM Apr 19, 2015
I'm a guy and get addressed as such quite often and, depending on the age of the person I'm involved with also get called mate, dude, bloke and some less complimentary terms depending on the nature of the interaction. Doesn't bother me in the least, but that's me and we're not all the same.
Dave
aussie_paul said
06:08 PM Apr 19, 2015
Lesley F wrote:
I have a bee in my bonnet, when cashiers and shop staff call me Love, Honey, Darl, Sweety,or similar it annoys me.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't call another woman, especially a stranger, using those words.
I often ask if the woman employee is trying to chat me up?, they tend to take a step back.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure men don't suffer the same, by being called Dude, mate, guy, chap, bloke, sexy, hunk, etc.
I'm OK with G'day, How ya going, good morning/afternoon, Hi there, Hello, etc., but not terms of endearment.
I don't either Lesley!!
Aussie Paul.
Happywanderer said
06:19 PM Apr 19, 2015
Totally agree with you Lesley F. Another one is a young male teenager behind the counter calling me mate.
But being called love and darl by young female cashiers makes me annoyed enough to say something to them.
Woody n Sue said
06:41 PM Apr 19, 2015
Not a fan of it either but just let it go through to the keeper figure it's better that a bad attitude from them
Santa said
06:54 PM Apr 19, 2015
I'm not a fan of this type of familiarity from people in retail/service industries.
Like the previous poster, prefer to ignore it than get a reputation of being a grumpy old fart, you never know when you will need the help of one of these people with an unusual request, and as we all know you will attract more bee's with honey than vinegar.
Phil C said
07:18 PM Apr 19, 2015
When I started in retail a a 15 year old, we were told everyone is sir or madame. I also have issues with young bloke calling me mate, when I was in StJohn I held warrant rank (Divisional Superintendent) and was called sir by all of lower rank, I was also saluted.
PC or not, I find love, dear etc, as Leslie has suggested offensive and disrespectful. As far as I am concerned young people should be more respectful to older folks, Rant over
Cheers
Dougwe said
07:28 PM Apr 19, 2015
So what you are saying Darl, is you are not impressed
Now come on you must have expected some idiot to say that. I fit the bill so why not
Soooory!
Edit......Phil C made do it
-- Edited by Dougwe on Sunday 19th of April 2015 07:29:35 PM
KFT said
07:36 PM Apr 19, 2015
I have often responded the same way when someone does that.
makes them think about what they have said to me sometimes.
Thank you sweetheart appreciate you looking after me so nicely today.
the rocket said
08:06 PM Apr 19, 2015
hi, do not like strangers saying that to me but someone I know is ok. I have even been know to say to a friend "gday love, how ya goin".
Olley46 said
08:18 PM Apr 19, 2015
I would rather be called darl or love than be called late for dinner,the majority of lady,s that call you those names are middle age women.
Lance C
hako said
08:25 PM Apr 19, 2015
It doesn't worry me in the least and it's much better than being not acknowledged as though you don't exist.
Regards
Santa said
08:41 PM Apr 19, 2015
Phil C wrote:
When I started in retail a a 15 year old, we were told everyone is sir or madame. I also have issues with young bloke calling me mate, when I was in StJohn I held warrant rank (Divisional Superintendent) and was called sir by all of lower rank, I was also saluted.
PC or not, I find love, dear etc, as Leslie has suggested offensive and disrespectful. As far as I am concerned young people should be more respectful to older folks, Rant over
Cheers
The fact is Phil that we are pretty well past our use by date, a few more years and the problem wont exist.
2foot6 said
09:21 PM Apr 19, 2015
Oh MATE ...... If you want to be called mate,ring YOUI insurance,they use the word at the end of every sentence and in any reference to you rather than call you by your name,I ended up hanging up on them......................cheers mate..oooops sorry Peter
-- Edited by 2foot6 on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:22:11 PM
Radar said
09:33 PM Apr 19, 2015
You can call me anything you like but don't call me late for dinner.
Sorry it do piss me off also but not enough too carry on about it, take it as a compliment and move on.
pauline said
09:42 PM Apr 19, 2015
Ok I have just turned 60 and I have to admit I call a lot of people I talk to luv or darl..........will try to keep my mouth shut in future, people get a life !
-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:43:52 PM
Chicken strangler said
09:58 PM Apr 19, 2015
It's the intent the way it is said that makes all the difference.
Santa said
10:17 PM Apr 19, 2015
I don't get too bent out of shape when addressed in this manner.
People who use this terminology are giving a pretty clear indication of their background and education.
It takes all types.
Lesley F said
10:22 PM Apr 19, 2015
I think most professional's/business people wouldn't want their staff saying this to customers, but somehow it's OK to target mostly mature age women.
I wouldn't dream of calling another woman, or man in this forum Darl, Honey, Love, sweety, it feels "too familiar".
pauline said
10:30 PM Apr 19, 2015
Santa wrote:
I don't get too bent out of shape when addressed in this manner.
People who use this terminology are giving a pretty clear indication of their background and education.
It takes all types.
I must be one of those types then...........whatever that means Santa, and there is nothing wrong with my background or education, always just thought of it as being friendly, like I said before people need to get a life, I apologise to everyone that I may have upset in the past and will also probably in the future, no offense intended just me being me.
ballast2 said
10:30 PM Apr 19, 2015
G'day all. I call most people mate as it helps with the so called gender barrier. I have no problem with the casual attitude of the newer generation. Remember most of our parents hated the way we spoke to and about others. It is time to move on.
Cheers
pauline said
10:37 PM Apr 19, 2015
Totally agree luv.............
Aus-Kiwi said
12:10 AM Apr 20, 2015
Call me anything you want!!
As long as it's not late for dinner ...
NeilandRaine said
07:32 AM Apr 20, 2015
pauline wrote:
Ok I have just turned 60 and I have to admit I call a lot of people I talk to luv or darl..........will try to keep my mouth shut in future, people get a life !
-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:43:52 PM
Luv, l say Pet, l say darl, l say sweetie.
I totally agree. It definitely is not what l like to be called from a young sales person.
Friends and family is fine though
Goldfinger said
09:52 AM Apr 20, 2015
.....and sometimes some 'Honeys' should be obscene and not heard.......IMO....lol......Hoo Roo
Don't like being called mate by a female. I'm not your mate cause mates do things......
Larry
Izabarack said
04:32 PM Apr 20, 2015
Mainly get "Sweetie". I also seem to get the best service from those calling me that. May be something about how I treat them, first. Have had a couple of "Honey". Never get "Darl" and don't ever recall any young sheila calling me "Mate". Only one I object to is the "Buddy" from some pimply faced face American wannabe at the auto parts shop.
Iza
animalcarer said
06:18 PM Apr 20, 2015
Hi. I get. That. I think I. Will. Use the chat up. Quote.
usedtobe said
11:17 PM Apr 20, 2015
Our daughters call us 'guys' don't like it but I remember calling my dad "my old man" but not to his face... I think that the people who use darl, love etc, are usually older women and from my experience they are the more caring types so enjoy being called these terms of address, there are much worse things to get upset by, a pity that our society is changing so much. I enjoy the old fashioned darl, love etc...it was around when I was a boy and that's over 50 years ago so glad some things are still the same...maybe repressed gender issues are the cause of feeling offended. Get over it guys ! Or should I say love ?
I have a bee in my bonnet, when cashiers and shop staff call me Love, Honey, Darl, Sweety, or similar it annoys me.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't call another woman, especially a stranger, using those words.
I often ask if the woman employee is trying to chat me up?, they tend to take a step back.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure men don't suffer the same, by being called Dude, mate, guy, chap, bloke, sexy, hunk, etc.
I'm OK with G'day, How ya going, good morning/afternoon, Hi there, Hello, etc., but not terms of endearment.
Dave
I don't either Lesley!!
Aussie Paul.
But being called love and darl by young female cashiers makes me annoyed enough to say something to them.
I'm not a fan of this type of familiarity from people in retail/service industries.
Like the previous poster, prefer to ignore it than get a reputation of being a grumpy old fart, you never know when you will need the help of one of these people with an unusual request, and as we all know you will attract more bee's with honey than vinegar.
PC or not, I find love, dear etc, as Leslie has suggested offensive and disrespectful. As far as I am concerned young people should be more respectful to older folks, Rant over
Cheers
So what you are saying Darl, is you are not impressed
Now come on you must have expected some idiot to say that. I fit the bill so why not
Soooory!
Edit......Phil C made do it
-- Edited by Dougwe on Sunday 19th of April 2015 07:29:35 PM
makes them think about what they have said to me sometimes.
Thank you sweetheart appreciate you looking after me so nicely today.
hi, do not like strangers saying that to me but someone I know is ok. I have even been know to say to a friend "gday love, how ya goin".
I would rather be called darl or love than be called late for dinner,the majority of lady,s that call you those names are middle age women.
Lance C
Regards
The fact is Phil that we are pretty well past our use by date, a few more years and the problem wont exist.
Oh MATE ...... If you want to be called mate,ring YOUI insurance,they use the word at the end of every sentence and in any reference to you rather than call you by your name,I ended up hanging up on them......................cheers mate..oooops sorry Peter
-- Edited by 2foot6 on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:22:11 PM
You can call me anything you like but don't call me late for dinner.
Sorry it do piss me off also but not enough too carry on about it, take it as a compliment and move on.
Ok I have just turned 60 and I have to admit I call a lot of people I talk to luv or darl..........will try to keep my mouth shut in future, people get a life !
-- Edited by pauline on Sunday 19th of April 2015 09:43:52 PM
It's the intent the way it is said that makes all the difference.
I don't get too bent out of shape when addressed in this manner.
People who use this terminology are giving a pretty clear indication of their background and education.
It takes all types.
I think most professional's/business people wouldn't want their staff saying this to customers, but somehow it's OK to target mostly mature age women.
I wouldn't dream of calling another woman, or man in this forum Darl, Honey, Love, sweety, it feels "too familiar".
I must be one of those types then...........whatever that means Santa, and there is nothing wrong with my background or education, always just thought of it as being friendly, like I said before people need to get a life, I apologise to everyone that I may have upset in the past and will also probably in the future, no offense intended just me being me.
Cheers
As long as it's not late for dinner ...
I totally agree. It definitely is not what l like to be called from a young sales person.
Friends and family is fine though
.....and sometimes some 'Honeys' should be obscene and not heard.......IMO....lol......Hoo Roo
Larry
Iza
Hi. I get. That. I think I. Will. Use the chat up. Quote.
Henri....